Post # 1
Hello! I am getting married in about 3 months and my mother would like to throw me a bridal shower in about 2 months. However, I live in TX and my family is in NC. I was already looking at plane tickets when she called me with an interesting idea. She has proposed that we basically do the shower on Skype … with my family and girlfriends getting together back home and me staying here in TX, with gifts (and even a cake!) being sent in advance of the shower date. My mom was concerned with weather issues traveling home, me wasting money on the ticket, and my work schedule becomings increasingly hectic in mid-Feb. I kind of don’t like the idea because I only plan on getting married once, but I know my hubby-to-be and I will have at least two showers here in Austin with a little bit of friends, family, and co-workers. So part of me is okay with what she is planning, but it would still not be ideal to not be at my own shower. But it’s almost 2010, maybe this is something that people are doing now? Any thoughts?
Thank you, ladies!
Post # 3
It’s super nice that she wants to throw you a shower and is even willing to do it long distance. I’ve never heard of a Skype-shower, maybe others have?
Personally, I’d want to be there and share it with them, be able to give hugs to the ones supporting me, and not be sitting in my living room alone. Maybe it’d be possible to do this at one of your local showers and then they can join in?
Post # 4
I’m running into the same issue – I live in NC and my bridesmaids and family live in TN. I’m springing for the ticket to go home for the shower, but they’re making it a “gift card” shower so I don’t have to worry about flying home with all the gifts. That may be an option for you… Besides this is a once in a lifetime thing and you want to be able to physically be there to share it with the ones you love.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I’m wary of the idea of a large gift-giving party where the person of honor doesn’t come.
If you can’t make it, I’d say don’t do it. You’re having other showers it sounds like, so you won’t be missing the experience. What about your mom flying down to attend one of your local showers?
Post # 6
This is one solution.
I am nervous about the “shower” thing too. I really want to have this opportunity but I think it will be having a shower on a Saturday then returning everything on a Sunday just to repurchase them all when I get back home (3,000 miles from home). Keep us posted on what you end up doing!
Post # 7
Thank you, ladies! My mom and I are still discussing/brainstorming ideas. I haven’t heard of a virtual bridal shower, but I have heard of girlfriends having virtual baby showers, so maybe it’s something new? I guess anything is possible! I will definitely let y’all know how we decide to handle it.
Thank you all so much for your opinions and advice! I’ll be back in touch…
Post # 8
I still think any kind of party where the person there is sort of strange. I understand the whole Skype thing but how will you keep track of who gave you what with no one there to write it down when you open it?
And it might be kind of sad eating your own shower cake all alone.
Post # 9
This is a HUGE issue for me as I’ll be in Korea until 2 weeks before the wedding. The other issue is that we can’t bring back any presents on the plane (and many presents we can’t actually use because the plugs/voltage/bed size etc are totally different between Canada and Korea).
A friend of mine who is American but living in Korea had a Skype baby shower. It worked really well. Another American friends just opened Christmas presents/had ‘Christmas dinner’ with his family in Montana via Skype. His FB pictures of the whole thing looked amazing. If you don’t want to be alone during the shower, do you have any friends who could come and be with you on your end?? Many companies are doing video conferencing instead of international travel, and I think in the future, we might see video technology having a bigger influence on personal events too. I know if I’m blessed with kids, Skype is going to be vital for my mum to be able to see her grandkids grow up far away.
Post # 10
On, and I should say that my Montana friend in Korea hooked his computer up to his huge tv so it wasn’t like he and his wife were trying to see the whole family on a tiny tv monitor. Depends on how tech savy you are though…
Post # 11
I think it could work. Since you have friends that will be throwing you a shower in Austin…is it possible to have it at a hotel that has video conferencing equipment. They can throw your shower in Austin at the same time your mom throws you one in NC and everyone can see. As long as your mom has the correct cables to connec the video feed to the big screen TV it should be cool.
Post # 12
Just an update …
My bridal shower thrown by my mom, step-mom, and family friend was yesterday and was fabulous! My fiance and I were here in Austin TX and the rest of the people were in South Carolina. We were able to do it through Skype. The guests sent their gifts to me prior to the shower, so they were able to see me open their gifts and I was able to thank everyone “in person.” We were actually able to play shower games via Skype as well. Of course, the only thing we weren’t able to do together was enjoy the shower snacks and cake. But overall, it was a huge success! For those wedding guests who could not make the shower, we are having a lingerie shower the night before the wedding.