(Closed) Long distance bridesmaids…anyone else?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am. I moved to Atlanta last year to join my Fiance and plan our wedding (5.28). My bridesmaids are in New Orleans. Our wedding is in Pensacola, Florida (where both of us were raised).

I did a lot of landmark things on my own – like pick out and buy my dress, bridesmaid dresses, and plan my entire wedding alone. It was a bummer at points .. having to go through some of my happiest memories alone.

It has been very stressful but I had to just make a decision to let the little things go and focus on the big picture. My wedding is turning into more of a reunion of sorts and I’m ok with that. I’m two weeks away and I can’t wait to be married.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

my two bridesmaids are long distance.  one is in AZ and one is in MI

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My maid of honor lives half way around the world in S Korea. My other bridesmaids live various distances apart. (I moved to a new city about 1.5 yrs ago) We are getting married in IA. My sister lives in TX, one friend lives 2 hours from me, and the other two live 4 hours from me.

I doubt I will have a bachelorette party, but my mom’s friends are throwing me a small shower back home.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

one of my BM’s lives in chicago. I am in Ohio. My Maid/Matron of Honor is currently half way around the world. She has been working in europe…although she comes home in 13 days until after the wedding! yay!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I have one long distance Bridesmaid or Best Man. I feel bad because she is missing out on things that I do with my Maid/Matron of Honor and other Bridesmaid or Best Man. I’m also sad because this is good bonding time that we’re missing out on. But, I’m lucky at least two are here.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I live in TN… Two of my BMs are in New Mexico, one is in Massachusetts and one is in NJ, but the one in NJ will be in Belgium for the last year+ prior to the wedding. I don’t know anyone in TN at all. ew.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

My Maid/Matron of Honor as well as one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man live in Ft Lauderdale, 1 1/2 hours away from us. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man lives in Tennessee. Not sure what the schedule will be like for her to come down for the wedding as of yet. It is almost 10 months away.

In the mean time the wedding will be in Ft Lauderdale and we will probably spend the week or 2 prior to the wedding down there to get all things completed.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

AH just like you, all 3 of my BMs are long distance.

And its because I moved here 4 years ago too!!

I am not sure ho it works… I havent even let them know they are BMS. When do you have to ask?

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

3 of my BMs are out of state (Ohio, Washington, NC), so I know how you feel. Im lucky bc my Maid/Matron of Honor is close by, but extremely busy. Im happy to have the Bee’s to ask for advice, since my BMs arent around.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I live in ATL, wedding was in CLE.  My bridesmaids were in San Francisco, Raleigh, NW Ohio (4 hrs away from CLE) and CLE.  My shower was the Saturday before the wedding.  I didn’t have a bachlorette due to lack of time (this wasn’t a priority for me)

While I incldued them over the phone and we were able to get together for Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping, I didn’t have any help with the work.  It was a bummer and a little lonely sometimes.

@maebeth: Let the ATL bees know if you need help!  There are lots of us!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

All my bridesmaids as well as Maid/Matron of Honor are out of state as well. 🙁 My Maid/Matron of Honor is in PA, and the other three in AL.

We all met up in NYC to go dress shopping. We had a great time, but it was sad when they left, because aside from the shower, that was as much time as I would get to spend with them before the wedding.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I have 4 girls, 3 of which are LD. My Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing me a bachelorette party locally about a month before the wedding but my 3 bridesmaids can’t come. And then my 3 bridesmaids are throwing me a shower 3 days before the wedding, but my Maid/Matron of Honor can’t come. So everything’s been a big compromise. C’est la vie, I guess!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

All but one of my bridesmaids are long-distance.  Two aren’t even in the country.  And both my mother and my fiance’s mother live a plane ride away.  I’m newly engaged and planning on doing visits when I can – ‘window shopping’ together even if I don’t buy anything in those locations – and doing lots of internet photo exchanges as well 🙂  It’s not ideal, but I love living where I do and I know we’ll make the best of it!  Then again, I haven’t really thought about a shower and a bachelorette party…I guess I’ll figure that out in due time.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

All my BMs are long-distance as well, plus my family is 4 hours away.  Luckily, my sister (MOH) and mom have been amazing, and we text/email a lot about things.  I sent people cell phone pictures of a lot of my projects and purchases.  My mom lives near the wedding site, so she’s also done a lot of things pertaining to that.  And we managed to arrange one weekend with all the girls and another with 2/3 of the bridesmaids, so we’ve gotten things done in that regard too.  Plus each of my non-sister BMs threw a shower in her hometown (groom’s side and bride’s side), so I got that as well.

Honestly, I was bummed about doing it all “on my own,” but we’ve managed to make it feel like not much of a distance, and Fiance has helped me with a lot of the projects.  I can’t tell you how many stores I walked around like a crazy person with my bluetooth in my ear, on the phone with my mom as I bounced ideas off her.  It can be done.

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