Long Distance Commiseration

posted 2 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 32
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

sparkosity :  Thanks! It is worth the wait in the end! And once you hit the one year mark you’ll also be super busy with wedding planning I guess, so that’ll help the year to fly in too.

Post # 33
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533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

sparkosity :  I was in a long distance relationship. My fiance and I live together now but I did my master’s abroad in London while he was doing his master’s in the U.S. We would see each other about every 3 months. So I can definitely understand!

We’re now both doing our doctorates and my fiance will be moving a few hours away to do his lab work (which has nothing on being in different countries but I am still really sad about it!).

What’s I’ve found is that even now that I’ve lived with my fiance for a year I can never take for granted being able to spend quality time with him because we used to be a ldr. I think it is easy for us to prioritize each other and put our relationship first because of our relationship history. LDR’s are hard but I think they make a relationship stronger and more able to endure tests. So that’s a plus! Keep your head up! 

 

Post # 34
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254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2021 - City, State

I was feeling the same way when I read this topic cause I’m in a long distance relationship too and I have been feeling the same way lately and I’m so glad reading these replies and hearing your story that I’m not alone either.

It is 2 1/2 hours a way, but it feels like so much farther apart just because we have funky work schedules and we cannot see each other all the time and it really sucks. Usually it is every other month besides gas can get expensive. 

I have been this way for almost five years now and there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel (unlike you which I am so jealous!) except we are talking about getting engaged soon, but I just got out of college and I have barely started my career and want to make sure I’m in a better place with that (I wrote a thread all about it). I’d imagine I’d probably feel the same way. I remember there was a time I was going to see him for Christmas, but couldn’t because of a blizzard and I was almost in denial and my parents had to beg me not to go. Then he cancelled the Christmas party anyways so that all went out the window. It feels like everything is trying to keep you apart.

However, I knew this well in when I met the guy, we met in a geeky chatroom video games of all things and I was just recovering from a break up and not even thinking about dating initially. When he asked me I decided to give it a shot and it turns out we have a lot in common including autism and he has been awesome especially when I first got diagnosed with bipolar and it is something I’m still trying to adjust to and another reason why our plans to close the gap got delayed too. 

 

Feel free to chat with me if you are losing hope. I’d be happy to help another long distance person out and cheer them up.

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