- 8 years ago
Hello all, it’s been a while! 🙂 I’m 32 weeks away from my wedding, and something has come up.
Some facts about Fiance and I: we’ve been together for 8 years, we’re very close and have lived together for 7 of those 8. We have our own house together.
Here’s the situation: Fiance has been offered a job that pays him more than three times what he makes now. But it’s in London, England (we live in SC). The job would provide him with a rent-free flat, tax free pay, a substantial sum for moving expenses, and a very good salary with potential for excellent bonuses. It would be for 2-3 years, and he gets 1 month in America per year and one week vacation per year, from what we’ve been told. If he took the job, he’d leave in about a month.
Fiance has always wanted to live overseas, but if he went, he’d be going alone. I’m committed to the family business here, and I absolutely can’t leave, though my off time is extremely flexible (I can basically vacation when I want to for any amount of time, especially during winter).
Honestly, that’s a long time to have to deal with a long distance marriage. In reality, I’d probably handle it better than Fiance, who is a much more emotional person. My rational mind sees this as an amazing opportunity to save up funds that we never would have been able to save up before. The long term benefit of that kind of money saved up would allow us to do many of the things we thought would take years and years to be able to. But I also know it would be hard, especially at first. Fiance is sensitive though strong in some ways (though he has anxiety issuse), and requires a lot of emotional care at times, and that’s what worries me. And it’s what makes him hesitant to do something like this- basically I hold him back, for all means and purposes, in my words. We have a very strong relationship, and I think with the right outlets, we could make things work, even if it isn’t the ideal situation. Web cams, phone calls, emails, texts, which we do regularly during the day already. Plus if he really needed me over there for a while, we’d have the money to afford a flight.
I think I just need some perspective here, from people that have been in this situation, and anyone that has an opinion in general!