- 9 years ago
- Wedding: February 2010
I’m getting married in March near my parent’s town, where my FI’s family is currently living as well. Both our families live in the same area. With the exception of their local friends, ALL of our friends will be flying in for our “destination” wedding, including us!
I’ve been busy with gradute school, and so I haven’t been able to be involved in any of the planning so far. My mother plans, puts down deposits, and has lots of things done and I just “approve” – basically speak up if something REALLY bothers me. However, I haven’t really veto’ed much of anything because – a) my parents are paying for everything and I really think it’s important to be conscious of that and not give much trouble and b) from 3,000 miles a way (with no money to fly) I can’t do much better.
So, all has been going fine. Now it is mid December, and I am going to be spending 10 VERY busy days at home. This will be KEY planning days for me to give my 2 cents on things. Even though the cake is bought and paid for – I’m going for a redudant “tasting.” I’m going to try to do a hair and makeup rehearsal. I’m going to try really hard to get a caterer tasting in. But, since I’ve been distant from everything for so long, I fear that due to time constaints I’m going to end up with a generic wedding – like a really nice birthday party.
I am SO jealous of all the DIY I see the wonderful bees on here engaging in. I love doing things with my hands myself and would have LOVED to come up with awesome running themes and details I could have executed – but the distance and lack of time with graduate school makes it really improbable.
I will not be able to go back to our hometown until THE wedding week, so there’s no hope of getting any more hands-on time other than this visit next week.
I wonder what I can possibly do at this point to share my vision. It doesn’t help that my parents don’t have any internet, so I can’t even email them things that I like. I know that if I really dwell on this issue it could REALLY begin to bother me, so I wish that I could come up with some plan of action for this week – A LIST of the most important details that I could nail down NOW so that they were mine and the rest of the things were decided by my folks according to what would be respectable.
According to my folks, all things are still workable, but like I said – giving my idea of what I like is hard from a distance with no internet.
What are the most important elements of a nice wedding – if I only had 10 days to plan a wedding, what would I make sure to nail down?
The only things already sealed are the cake, the caterer (menu is under price negotiations), the band, the photographer, the videographer, the venue (a tent in my parents back yard), and my mother has contacted a flower arranger/designer woman who will decorate the tent and a wedding coordinator to handle things DAY OF.
Other than that, NOTHING is done. No invitations, table decorations, any stationary, ceremony, …. .what else is there? I don’t even know!
O M G PANIC IS RISING. HELP!!