(Closed) Long Distance Relationship/Engagement/Marriage?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Where will you be living after you are married?  Do you know where you want to be married?  The easiest thing is to have the wedding where the person who is doing the bulk of the planning is.  But that can often get complicated with family and other stuff.  So first things first!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It seems like you and your fiance (congratulations, btw) need to sit down and figure out where to have the wedding and what would work best for the two of you.  Then I’d go from there.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

My sister is engaged to someone who lives in the states and she still lives in Montreal. They were at first going to have their wedding in the states in his hometown, but now they’re having the wedding in Montreal.

Congrats on your engagement! Have you two decided yet where you’re going to have the wedding? I think that is the first step. I think at least one of you will have to do a lot of traveling in order to nail things down, unless one of you doesn’t care so much about specifics to do with the wedding. My sister picked the venue for her wedding before her Fiance saw it, but her Fiance kind of just let her choose whatever place she wanted lol.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

@jacp84: Well, do you want to have the wedding where you currently live? If so, and you’re sure you’re moving to TN, then I guess you should plan the wedding to be there.

Post # 9
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424 posts
Helper bee

I was in your situation.  My fiance proposed when we were together for 4 years and still living in seperate states.  I finally moved in with him 3 days ago (and now 5 years together) but I have everything planned already.  I chose a place near my hometown to get married at.  All the decisions were a lot easier than I thought they would be.  Just choose where you want to get married and then everything will work out 🙂

Post # 10
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5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

My husband works out of state 6 months a year, every year.  He is gone from March-September.  We did a lot of our planning over the phone and via email.  I would email him recaps from meetings, pictures etc.  It was pretty easy!

Post # 11
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18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

If you think you are going to move, I would wait to start planning until that is sure.  My husband and I were long distance at the beginning of our relationship.  It would have been hard not know if or when we were going to be together.  If you are moving and he is losing his job, maybe you should both look for work in TN?  Where in TN might you be moving?  Everyone around here loves Chatanooga.

Post # 12
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489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Do you have extended family that would be coming?  where do they live?  Is there anywhere that you would be excited about getting married?

Post # 13
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608 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Pick where you want to have not where you might be living, especially since it sounds like your plans are up in the air.  Even if you are out of town from your venue you will be fine . A lot of brides plan weddings from out of town.  

I’m currently planning a wedding in a town about a hour from where I live and I finace who lives in another state.  We spent a few weeks talking about what we wanted as far as do we want casual or formal, outdoors or indoors.  Then we set a budget together.  We also worked out an esitmated guest list knowing it would changing a little but it gave us a place to start so we could find a venue that fit the feel, the budget, and size of wedding we discussed.  After all that its really been just me working on the wedding since I’m the closest.  We discuss everything and I sent photos and contracts over for him to review.  I think setting expectations and wants up front helps me make decisions that fit for both of us even though he is not here

Post # 14
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I’m not engaged (yet) but I want to have a marriage license form the state I spent most of my life in, even though we aren’t and won’t be living in that state for many years, if not a decade.  That state is where we met and very important to us, and it’s where I want my future children to attend school.  I also looove how that state’s marriage license looks compared to surrounding states’/districts (so shallow, I know).  So I will be planning (one day) a destination wedding for us, but not for most of our guests, haha!

In conclusion, my advice would be pick where you would enjoy getting married, not where you think you would live.  And if you don’t really care that way, pick what state has a better looking marriage license! 😉

Post # 15
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1013 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I live in Toronto and Fiance in New York. We first planned on having our wedding in NYC it is where we fell in love. Then we changed it to Toronto because I have more family. Now we have changed it to a Destination Wedding in Costa Rica! We are thrilled with this decision and once we sat and talked about it I realized that he was not that into the big wedding thing and wanted an intimate gathering. I want him to be comfortable because it is his day too!

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