(Closed) Long Distance Wedding Invite

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’m only saying this because I’m in crazy RSVP stress mode. I think it is better to just not say anything. A lot goes into making a guest list (people get cut, etc.) and people (the bride) get stressed out. I have a lot of people asking me if they can have plus ones, bring kids, etc. and though I understand, it’s just not possible. 

Post # 4
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2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

As crazy as it is, it’s actually not correct etiquette to put ‘and guest’ on a Save the Date.  I would have your FI say to the groom, ‘awesome, i’m booking my flights, should my girlfriend book a flight too? She’s awesome, can’t wait for you to meet her, in fact, we’re planning on getting engaged in the next X months.’ Feel it out.  Nothing wrong with that.  If you’re engaged before invites get mailed, you should get invited!

Post # 5
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

And guest would go on the invite not necessarily the STD. We got a STD to FI’s cousin’s wedding and only his name was on it, however my name was on the invitation.  If you have to make travel reservations before you get the invite, I guess you could have him ask his cousin about it but I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that but that’s just me.

Post # 7
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286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either asking the couple or asking the couple’s parents if you’re close. That said, if they even slightly try to say no, just graciously accept it. They might be not inviting +1s at all or they might just not have put you on the STD for some reason.

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