Post # 1
Ok bees, this is my encore wedding, (I was married briefly in a fit of insanity in my early 20’s). I am now planning a wedding across the country and have to rely on other people to help and it’s just not my style! The wedding will be in FI’s hometown, so his family has been a help but it’s killing me not being there to take care of business. My first wedding was in the town where I lived and I felt like I had more control over it. Destination girls, how do you do it???
Post # 3
@AirForceWife78: I’m planning long distance too, but luckily my mom is doing a ton to help out.
Post # 4
I’m getting married in my hometown 1200 miles away. Between now and the wedding, I’ll only be there ONCE… UGH. I’ll only have one day to coordinate EVERYTHING while there. It is stressful, but I think I might stress more if I was there ALL THE TIME and had that cloud over my head. I remind myself “that’s why you picked the all-inclusive venue and hired a coordinator”. Probably makes you Future Mother-In-Law feel SO important.
Post # 5
We planned long distance… It was so stressful especially since you can’t just go to the venue, bakery, dj meetings. But alot of vendors were really understanding that we were long distance. Reach out for all the help you can get, thats my advice. If someone can help take it. But after it was said and done everything turned out great for us! We did alot of emailing and phone calls with the vendors. We send our mothers places, sisters, bridesmaids, groomsmen places… (We are both from the same hometown, but live 6 hours away, it was impossible to drive for one day to get anything done, which one day is usually all we had)…
It was frustrating that I couldn’t go to the places myself… and there were some things that “weren’t the way I would have wanted it” … but looking back no one is going to know if its not what you had “envisioned” and it would be wonderful to have everything perfect… but it’s not….
but honestly if I had to do it again, I would have hired a wedding planner, I think it was an expense that me and my husband both agreed after the wedding we would have done, knowing how stressed we were worrying about getting stuff done because of how busy we were.