Post # 1
Hello! This is my first time starting a post but I could really use the hive’s wisdom. My fiance lives in England and I live in the US, and we’re about to start the immigration stuff for his visa. Our wedding is in Sept 2010, and he’s coming for a visit in the next two weeks, and then I’ll visit him there, and after that he won’t be back till he moves here. We’re not sure when that will be, but probably not till summer of next year, hopefully a few months before the wedding at least, but it depends on how long the immigration stuff takes.
I suddenly panicked today when I thought about registering. Do we need to do it when he visits here this month? I’m worried it will be too much trouble to maintain a registry for a whole year before the wedding.
Otherwise, do we wait till he moves? Would 2 – 3 months before the wedding be too late?
Or do we sit at computers across the ocean and figure it all out online? I like the idea of walking around the store a lot better, at least for most of it. I know we’ll have to do some online parts for our international guests.
Thanks for any insight!
Post # 3
I did mine about 6 months out- you should definitely have it up prior to any parties that you are having to celebrate your wedding (engagement parties or showers) because people will be looking for your registry.
I think you can do your registry when he is here, but just know that it is a lot of work. If it were me, I might go look at things when he is here to get an idea of style and what you both like, and then do a lot of it online together.
Post # 4
If you don’t like the computer idea – do it physically together when he is here next month for the big stuff! Then you can do the smaller seasonal stuff by computer later or when he comes over next summer!
Post # 5
Also, just know that sometimes things will be discontinued, so if you pick something a year in advance, there is a chance it will be discontinued. Which, if it is an item that is sold alone, like a table cloth, it’s not too big of a deal because you could just pick out a new one. But if your dishes are discontinued, and you already have half of them, it can become a headache.
My dishes weren’t discontinued, but a certain size serving tray was and I had to track it down in stores across the country! We solved the problem, but it was annoying. So if you start it a year out, just make sure you keep checking in on it.
Post # 6
I was told by Sears that a year out was about the time you’d want to register, so i don’t think it’s too early to go while he’s visiting!
Post # 7
I personally think maintaining it for a year would be a PIA. We didn’t have anyone buy anything more than a month before the wedding so if it was me doing it again I would register 2-3 months before hand.
Post # 8
I live in England, and registered easily online at US stores (Macys and BBB). Would’ve been more fun to do it in person, but I didn’t want to register too early, for the same reasons you’ve listed.
Is he going to be coming over on the fiance visa, then? So with a Sept. wedding, he’d be coming over in mid-June, at the earliest (to comply by the 90-day “deadline”)? That seems like plenty of time– if you’re having any bridal showers, I doubt they’d be before the 3-month mark.
Post # 9
it really depends on whether or not you’ll be having any parties before he moves here officially. Since no one will really be looking for your registry until they know they HAVE to buy gifts, I think you might be safe to wait until he moves here (or right before). Another thing to try is registering just before you send out the invitations.
We’re getting married in december and registered in August. We’re already having to re-register for things since we registered at the beginning of the Labor day sales.