- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2010
We’ve been married for a little over a year and now we have to live apart for the next 7 months and it SUCKS. He’s in Maine and I’m out in LA so it’s not like we can even see each other on weekends. What happened was I was living in Maine when we met, though I’m from California.
In fact Mother-In-Law doesn’t like me because of that:the first thing she said after we met was that I would end up dragging her son off to California (you know the land of Soddom and Gomorrah:). turns out to be true. I was offered a job here to work in sales and marketing for an amazing jewelry company. We are small but about to blow up, so there was no way to pass up this opportunity. Plus, it’s home for me-all my friends and family are here. I had one best friend in Maine. She was from Cali:)
Anyway, my husband has a really good landscaping business established in Maine and he makes WAY better money than he ever could out here. But because his business is seasonal, he was with me from December to the end of March. He only left a few weeks ago.
My job is so consuming that I don’t have a lot of time to think about him during the day but at night, it’s getting worse by the day. I cried a little last night. We can’t Skype right due to technical difficulties, so we just talk on the phone.
Last night I called him on the way home and we were discussing how soon I could fly back for a visit and I told him I didn’t know. We are at such a critical juncture with the business right now, I absolutely cannot leave. Then he said something that kind of made my stomach drop. He said he was worried we would get TOO disconnected. It really freaked me out (hence the tears).
The thing is, if we can have an LDR until November, we will finally be in a financial situation where he can take a job here for less money ’cause I’ll be making a much bigger salary. So we just have to get through these next few months, but I didn’t really stop to consider the impact it might have on our relationship.
I’m not worried about cheating or anything like that, but not having him here really might cause a big disconnect. But the reward is so great, that’s what’s keeping me going right now, because I miss him so much already.
I guess I don’t have any advice, I just feel the pain of everyone who is going through something like this. I’ll just have to console myself (and him) with the thought that we will NEVER have to live apart ever again after this. That it will be worth the sacrifice.
[Sorry this is so long-I can never seem to edit myself:]