(Closed) Long Distance?

posted 9 years ago in June 2010
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

The worst of my situation will be over soon – but I can sympathize nonetheless.

 Since we’ve been engaged, and for a little more than a month still, I’ve been in Italy. Type A me would love to plan and get things done, but it’s hard when the only contact capability at my disposal is e-mail, and I can’t meet with anyone in person! Let’s just say I’ve been able to get a bunch of ideas but not act on many of them. Luckily, my Fiance, who is local to our wedding location, booked the ceremony and he’s been working on the reception. But with my being over here working with the reception site has been frustrating at least initially, and it’s still not officially booked yet. Nothing else will probably happen until I’m home. 

 Once I am home this summer, I’ll want to get a lot done since I only live 2.5 hours from the wedding location, and come late August I’ll be headed back to school which is farther away, but close enough to visit for a weekend. I know I’ll be much busier once school starts again. I just hope that I can figure out how to plan from both school and home, and make strategic appointments for the visits that I do make to my fiance while he’s at school (since we’re getting married at his college). 

 So yes, I am planning from a variety of distances and I know it’s tricky! Thanks for letting me vent about it. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

June Bug~

Excellent choice with June 5th (It’s my bday )!

We are in the same situation with planning a "destination" wedding.  My finance and I live in Denver, but the wedding will be back home in Boise.  Our family is all nearby in Idaho, but it is just not the same!  I have never even been to the proposed ceremony & reception site and the pictures from their website leave much up to the imagination.  We are planning a weekend trip to view the site in May or June, but it is challenging to try to deal with everything remotely.

Another issue I have been having is that the wedding websites generally have very little, if anything, about Idaho weddings & planning.  But at least we are all getting started on this early! I want as little stress as possible on the big day, so am doing my best to be proactive now!

Good luck!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m not a June 2010 bride. I’m a September 2010 bride. I’ve already felt some of the sting from planning long distance. I currently live in DC, but will be moving to SF in a few weeks. My wedding is in Upstate NY. I’ve taken to blogging about my long distance woes and finds — check it out at http://crosscountrywed.blogspot.com

I’m always looking for topics that long distance brides are dealing with to add to my future post lists, so if you have any in mind please feel free to message me and I’ll do a little research for ya!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

For me a big one is tastings.  I’m mostly just going on the fact that I know our venue is well known for its catering, so hopefully whatever we pick will taste good.  Ditto for our cake.

And now even my florist is someone I haven’t met in person.  I met a couple last time I was in Michigan (December), but they didn’t click with me.  so I had to decide between ‘meeting’ a florist over the phone or going with someone who wasn’t just right.  Flowers to me are such an integral part of the wedding in terms of setting mood etc, so it’s tough.  But I’ve opted for going by phone and the vibes I got.  My parents have both met the florist in person and reassure me he’s great, but they have very different taste then me so I’m not sure how to translate their feeling that he can accomplish what I want…oy!  As you can tell, I’m pretty meticulous esp. when it comes to event planning (I used to be a social coordinator for my house in college).  I’m big into little details, and it’s really weird just  *not* being able to do anything about them.  But maybe good for me too ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I will be planning my wedding long-distance after August! I’m finishing up school in Georgia and graduating August 1, and then moving up to Lexington, KY to live with my fiance. I’m hoping to get most of the planning done in Atlanta before then, at least with the booking of the major vendors.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Long distance planning is turning out to be a lot more work than I thought it would be. I mean, brides you can understand this, I don’t want other people making important or even unimportant decisions for me.  Even if they are people you trust… errr… Northern CA wedding with no venue to date.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m planning my June wedding (we just changed the date!) from afar. I anticipate a lot of stress! Thankfully my mom will help me!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Im planning my wedding from far. Live in CA and having wedding in MS

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Hey Bees – I am also planning my Minnesota wedding from North Carolina. I am fortunate enough to have family and friends who have offered suggestions and helped with the planning so I am WAYYY ahead of the game!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Another June bee planning from afar! I’m in my senior year of college in Missouri and the wedding is in Tennessee. To add to the long distance theme, my Fiance is in Maryland!

In some ways, I feel like planning long distance forces me to let go. My mom is my wedding planner for all intensive purposes and I actually like delegating a lot of things to her! She already met with and chose the photographer, I just saw her portfolio and gave the OK.

I’ll be home for five weeks soon, and we’ll take that time to get A LOT done – mostly securing all our vendors, hammering out the final guest list, & getting my gown! But there will be plenty more things I won’t be able to be a part of. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee

That’s something I had to do alot of in a recent trip home – see the venue, meet with the photographer (a friend who is a prof. photog), meet with the florist/DOC, meet the officiant, find my dress, look at Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, etc. We are planning a trip back again in Sept. to try the catering and cake, meet with the DJ, hopefully take some e-photos. ๐Ÿ™‚ Planning long distance DOES force you to give up alot of control, and for me it’s enforced how much trust I have in my family and friends to help me plan a wonderful wedding, even if I am halfway across the country!!

Post # 16
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Wannabee

I am planing my wedding from very afar. I live abroad, in Dubai. We’re getting married in my hometown in New Jersey. I’m glad I’m not the only one stressing with this! I managed to get a lot accomplished this summer- venue, dress, bridesmaid dress, caterer, blocked off hotel, photographer, leads on limos and we’re working on invitiations. But the next time I will be home will be April!

I do have a helpful mother and 2 bridesmaids in the States, and one in Dubai to help me let go and stay sane!

Have you found vendors were more accomadating?

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