- 7 years ago
Hello ladies. First of all I want to apologize for my english, since it’s just my second language and I’m still improving it.
I feel very down today and would really appreciate some honest opinion. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 4 years know. We travelled to each other constantly during this time, spent some Christmas together, and last year we dicided to live together for a while, since we never stayed more then one week together. So, I spent 6 months with him before my visa expires and I had to go back to home. The thing is, as much as I feel afraid of the marriage, which I do, I know deep inside of me he is the one for me. He is just an amazing guy and we are a good couple. When I ask him if he wants to marry me he says: I think you are the one. The fact he only thinks makes me sad. Now he wants me to go there again and stay more six months with him before we get married. I asked him if he would marry me now and he said he doesn’t feel prepared for it yet. I feel so sad because I think that at this point of our relationship he is still not sure if the doubts he has are due to marriage and all the restrictions it holds or if its because he is not sure I am the one for him. I feel in limbo right now because I am one year without work since I need to travel constantly to meet him. My life is stuck and I don’t think that in 5 months his feeling will change. Things will be like they have always been between us. I don’t know if I should spend more 6 months there, away from my country, since he is not sure yet, but I miss him a lot and feel sad at the same time. When I talk about getting a fiance visa he says he rather buy me an engagement ring then spend money on a piece of paper we wont need, since we are going to marry anyway. What do you think about this ladies? Have any of you had any similar situation?