(Closed) Long engagement bees- At what point did you go from dreaming to actual planning?

posted 9 years ago in Proposals
Post # 17
4753 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I had a 20 month engagement. Somewhat shorter than a “few years.” I suggest you simply look for inspiration because it will change. Work up an imaginary budget, and plan for price INCREASES (each and every year- prices increase). have a folder where you can save ideas in.

I started planning 1.5 years out. I also go quite a lot of “wow, you’re ahead of the game” comments, even though I didn’t think it was THHHHAT early. 2 years TOPS is when I think you should plan. But the best part is you’ll have the most time to SAVE MONEY… it’s expensive.

Post # 18
6244 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I’m having a 22-month engagement. I took my time researching, checking out tons of venues, collecting inspiration pictures, attending bridal shows, etc.

  • 21 months

    • created a budget in excel
    • determined tentative guest list

  • 19 months

    • bought my dress (a fluke — I went to try on a particular designer, ended up not even trying that designer and buying my dress)

  • 13 months

    • the dress came in
    • bought the veil

  • 12 months

    • booked the venue
    • started contacting and meeting with vendors
    • booked photographer
    • had menu tasting
    • booked caterer
    • booked makup artist/hair stylist

  • 11 months

    • asked my Maid/Matron of Honor
    • veil came in
    • Started working on centerpieces

  • 10 months

    • engagement pictures to be taken
    • sending save-the-dates (holiday weekend wedding)



Post # 19
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

We got engaged on June 6, 2009 and our wedding will be on September 22, 2012… so our engagment will be 39 and a half months long!!!  We started booking on July 22, 2011 (14 months before the big day) and we just booked the last thing a couple days ago… our wedding is 11 months from this Saturday!!

Post # 20
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow it looks like I win so far for the longest engagment… I forgot to mention that we didn’t have a set date until this summer when we booked the chapel and reception venue… we were both in university when we got engaged and I didn’t really let myself get too excited until we had a set date.

Post # 21
6244 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

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@DaniBanani:  WOW!  You take the cake on long engagements!

Post # 22
487 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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It’s funny, because in England long engagements are kind of the norm a lot of the time – 2 years is considered fairly average. Or a super long dating period and then about a year of engagement/wedding planning. My brother was with my sister in law for 7 years before getting engaged, then they were married a year later.

One person who springs to mind is my friend. He asked his gf who he’d been with I think 3 years at the time to marry him in 2009, and they’re getting married in something like 2014 or 2015!

My fiance and I are considered “fast mover’s” these days – we got together in 2010, were engaged in 2011 and will be married in 2012. It sometimes feels weird comparing it to my friend because he’s been engaged since before I was even in a relationship, and yet he won’t be married until 2-3 years after I’m married. Makes us seem as fast as superman lol.

Post # 23
198 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We got engaged in 2004… then we had a baby in 2005… then we bought our house in 2007… had some ups and downs in 2009…. and now in 2011 we are finally planning our wedding which will be in 2013 !  By the time we get married we will have almost a 10 year engagement…lol…. I guess we did things a little backwards, but for us it’s just how it happened ~ whats meant to be will be 🙂

Post # 24
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We were engaged on Christmas 2008 and we still have over a year to go until the big day. Since we were both undergrads, we wanted to be done with our Bachelors’ and in, if not complete, grad school. As of right now, Fiance is in a PhD program and I am just starting my MBA. We really just started hard core planning in May because our venue/cruiseline does a limited number of weddings on each cruise and they had just officially released the dates for 2013. Keep in mind, the cruise ship takes care of the food, cake, flowers, photographer and DJ for us, so these things don’t factor into my timeline.

So our 49 month timeline looks like….

December 2008- Engaged

December 2008-May 2011: Moved from Delaware to Oklahoma to New England

  Fiance started PhD

  Decided to have a cruise wedding

  Stalking inspirational blogs, boards and wedding gowns

June 2011: Graduated from college

July 2011: Started actually gown shopping and had a family meeting to reveal “the plan”

August 2011: Asked our MOH’s

      Selected our colors and motfi

      Told our brother’s that they and their children would be in the bridal party.

      Selected my gown and clothes for the bridal party

      Officially booked the cruise ship for the wedding and rooms for our family

September 2011:Started my MBA

   Cheated on my selected gown and bought a different gown

   Mailed the Save the Dates (DW aboard a 7 day cruise)

   Met with our Carnival supplied wedding coordinator (we didn’t want one)

October 2011: Divorced the mistress gown and remarried the first one

       Fiancee finally chose her gown

       Ordered our invitations from Zazzle (because they were 85% off!)

       Booked our DJ to guarantee the disco was ours for the reception

December 2011: Mom is going on a cruise aboard our ship to do recon

January 2012: My Dress should be in and Fiancee’s dress will be ordered

February 2012: Ordering MOH’s dresses and the flower girl

April 2012: Fiancee’s and MOH’s dresses should be in

  First fittings (eeek!)

May 2012: Order glasses so my Aunt can get them painted in between her regular orders

September 2012: Mail invites (We have to compile a list of guests IDs, b’days, & names)

October 2012: Final payment is due to Carnival for the cruise cabins

       Menu selection and signature drink requests are due

       Helping our brothers select their suits (BOGO Columbus Sale @ Mens WH)

Thanksgiving 2012: Final fittings (We are in New England and our gowns are in Delaware)

December 2012: Getting legally married in New England and sending license to Carnival

  Guest list and final payment for additional wedding guests is due

January 2013: Having our wedding aboard the Fun Ship!

       Go to Disney World, Nassau and Freeport

       Last day at sea, we meet with the photog and buy our photos

Sorry it’s so long :-/

Post # 25
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We got engaged in 2003, and just got married last month!

We were waiting for me to finish my studies, but I ended up taking a lot longer to finish them than we had ever thought.

We did no planning at all for the first 5 years or so. Then for the next 2 years it was mostly just heaps of research – contacting vendors, discussing prices and products and such, so we would know exactly what we wanted and who we would book when the time arose.

We actually didn’t even set a date until I think around March this year. But we already knew who we would book, so it made it easy.

Definitely not the normal way to go about things, but it worked out well for us!

Post # 26
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have to say, I’m really glad to see other Bees who waited to finish their degrees!  I have seen two people in my class get engaged and married in the time I’ve been engaged.  Makes me feel behind! lol.  Anywho, our engagement was 18 months but I feel like that’s pretty long.  I started doing things right away which allowed me to space things out and not be stressed about it, which I am very thankful for.

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