(Closed) Long Engagement Blues

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Long engagement? Tell me more!
    I have/had a long engagement, and I loved it! : (40 votes)
    34 %
    I have/had a long engagement, and it drove me nuts! : (28 votes)
    24 %
    I have had/am having a short engagement, thank goodness! : (14 votes)
    12 %
    I have had/am having a short engagement, and I wish I had more time! : (1 votes)
    1 %
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    I wear the cheese, the cheese does not wear me. : (16 votes)
    14 %
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  • Post # 3
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    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @MarshmallowLatte:  I’m having a long engagement too, for similar reasons to yourself. It can be hard sometimes to temper your excitement with practicality, but whenever I think about how much weddings cost, it makes me so grateful we have a long time to save? How long have you been engaged so far?

    Post # 5
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    3553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I’ve got a decently long engagement, almost 2 years.  My mother loves it and Fiance and I are dong fine with it. My mom thinks planning will be a cakewalk because we have so much time and we’ll be able to lock in our first choice vendors, so far she’s been right. I think it helps us cope to know that we’re waiting for a day that has special meaning to us. We’re getting married on our 8th anniversary. I also like the amount of time we have to save because, like you, I just graduated from college and Fiance is graduating this fall.

    Post # 7
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    3553 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    @MarshmallowLatte:  I wish I could come up with a budget too. I could lose my job at any time because my lab is out of funding, so it’s really hard to project what our income is going to be. My parents are paying for the venue and the food. Since I’m planning long distance they’ve been doing the leg work. We put down the deposit on our first choice venue (the only one they toured) a few weeks ago and finalized the custom menu yesterday, so at least we know where, when, and what’s for dinner ๐Ÿ™‚ My mom is getting weirded out that this is too easy.

    Post # 8
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    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I have one and it’s awesome. We have had so much time to budget, plan, start paying things off, save money, slowly accumulate stuff, etc. And honestly, it goes by fast! Our engagement period will be 22 months, and we are already 8 months away.

    Post # 9
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    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    FH and I got engaged in September of 2010 and won’t be getting married until March 2014. I will be the first to admit that there have been plenty of times that I wanted to rip my hair out because I felt like I couldn’t plan or do anything. But now that the wedding is quickly approaching, I’m actually pretty thankful for a long engagement. I’ve had plenty of time to refine the small details, we’ve had time to save for things and I didn’t spend my entire engagement planning a wedding and being stressed out. I can plan now without all the hassle because I had so much time to put things together, all I have to do now is make some phone calls.

    And honestly, it’s gone by a lot faster than I ever would have imagined.

    Post # 10
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    1572 posts
    Bumble bee

    Phew! I had a short engagement (only ~7 months), but I can definitely see why yours will be longer since you are still in college, etc. Seems like you are doing the right thing by waiting ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
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    3969 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    What do you consider a long engagement? Ours will be about 23 months, and it feels like foreverrrrr, especially because by the time we marry we will have been together 7 years. 

    Post # 12
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    724 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    My engagement will be almost 3 years. Honestly, I am not in a rush to get married. I am beyond happy where my life is right now and my Fiance and I are taking things slow. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely cannot wait to marry him… but I also know that neither one of us are going anywhere and I want to make sure that we are both in a good position before we settle down. He just got a job and I have been working for about a year to save some money. I’d rather be in a good place financially then rush getting married and have problems down the road. No engagement is too long if it’s what works for you guys ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 13
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    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @MarshmallowLatte: I really recommend booking your venues early. That’s basically all I’ve done so far (engaged 9 months out of a 2 year engagement), but we were able to lock in 2012 prices for a 2014 wedding (prices typically go up every year), we signed during a short-term promotion my venue was having, AND we had our pick of June dates at a very popular venue. 

    Post # 14
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    960 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Whats defined as a long engagement anyways? 1 year? 2 years? 1.5 years??

    Post # 15
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    1850 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @MarshmallowLatte:  I’m right there with you, mama. I’m getting married a whole month before you, lol. It does sound like a really long time, but guess what?

    You do get to plan.

    You get first dibs on your date.

    You don’t have to pull your hair out planning a wedding a year away. You can take a few months off if you’d like.

    If you’re trying to lose weight…you have two years!

    You get extra time to do any DIY projects.

    If money is tight, you can work out an installment plan with your vendors. Bam!

     

    I’m having a 2 year, 3 month engagement. Do I wish sometimes we just had enough money to get hitched next year? Hell yeah. But it’s nice to know that I have time to plan the wedding we want on our time. We’ll be getting married on our 6th (!) anniversary. We might as well make it a big party. ๐Ÿ˜‰ 

     

    Post # 16
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    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @MarshmallowLatte:  The time goes by very very quickly. We will be engaged for 25 months and it’s been 5 months already. My plan is to have all necessary deposits put down by the 1 year mark.

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