- Wedding: October 2014 - Legare Waring House
When did you get engaged?: October 2011
When are you getting married/did you get married?: October 2014
Why are you having/did you have a long engagement?: Well, a. somebody jumped the gun a little 🙂 and b. we knew we wanted to wait until we were both done with school (I will finish my Master’s program in December) and then ended up having to push it back from March, and didn’t want to do summer in SC.
Pros of a long engagement: We had only dated for 8 months when he proposed, we are able to grow as a couple, and discuss our long term goals, as well as slowly figure out finances, etc.
It is nice to have time to plan, and make conscious decisions about who we want to have at the wedding, how much money we want to spend, etc. without feeling rushed or pressured.
Cons of a long engagement: The cons of our long engagement are really just cons in our relationship. We are currently long distance, and I wish we could not be. But hey, such is life.
Overall, do you/did you like having a long engagement? Why or why not?: I am liking it. We’ve been lucky enough to hire a wedding planner (the wedding is going to be in his hometown, which neither of us live in at the moment…) and she is absolutely wonderful. I never thought I would have a long engagement, but it will be nice to finish my graduate degree with my maiden name and start our life together knowing that we have pursued our individual goals, which I know will make us stronger as life partners.
Any other advice: Honestly, keep the above in mind. You are so young (I am pretty young too, so please don’t take that the wrong way) and I hate to see people compromise their life goals for marriage. Unless that is your goal! If being married to this man will make you happy outside of anything else, then hang on to that and have a beautiful long engagement and happy life together.
Oh yeah, and as @clumsylawyer said, it’s SO easy to overthink things. Focus on your school, and plan your wedding when you can.
Good luck to you.