(Closed) Long engagement vendor woes

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
2015 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

While it’s inexcusable for vendors to be rude for this, I do see where they’re coming from.

Keep in mind many venues won’t even book dates more than 12-14 months out. It largely has to do with the fact that plans can easily change. I know that right now, you don’t think it’s possible, but trust me … things change! I thought I had it all planned out before I even got engaged (hubs and I did some pre-planning), and once it got to be a year out (we had a 14-month engagement) so many things changed. It’s just the nature of the industry … people change their minds, once you book a venue, colors change, etc.

As a wedding vendor myself, I wouldn’t book a date more than 14 months out. One, because the likelihood of a bride committing to me that far out is very slim. Two, because I would expect things to change a lot between now and the wedding date.

I would suggest you just start e-mailing vendors and inquiring about their pricing ranges. An example would be, “Hi there! For my upcoming wedding, I’m looking to get pricing information for your services. To see if you’re in my budget, would you be able to tell me what range I can expect to spend with you?” I get these e-mails a lot, and I’ll respond with my base package pricing, and what the average bride spends with me ๐Ÿ™‚

I hope that helps! Happy planning ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had a long engagement too and we purposely put off booking anything until we were around a year out.  I think that over 2 years is a bit far out to be planning for most things unless you want a super exclusive venue that books up way in advance.  Especially since tastes change, you might not want to do the candy buffet anymore or a company could go out of business.

It isn’t right for them to be rude to you though.  I just don’t know how to stop it unless you are vague about your plans.

Post # 6
311 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

So I am a little delayed in reading this but I saw you commented on one of my recent posts and are a fellow 2012 bride! I have realized that a lot of people actually have a 2yr+ engagement, but it still definitely makes it difficult to plan, etc, so far out.. I have been having the same experience with venues and vendors and it gets really frustrating, especially since my FH and I are on a pretty tight budget – that requires a little more research than someone who has access to a bit more money (from my experience). That being said, just keep looking. Getting engaged is AMAZING (congrats!) and you just want to jump right in; I sure did! We have actually already picked our venue and DJ (they work together a LOT) but will probably not be picking much else out until we hit the one year mark. I know it’s hard, but hang in there! That’s what DIY projects, blogs, and weddings mags are for ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

i had a year engagement and still people would tell me, “you have plenty of time” and they felt like i didn’t have to make my decisions yet. i’m a planner, and i wanted everything done THEN! so i just told them, i know we have a while still, but i want to get it done.

Post # 8
16191 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@ILuvDance17: That’s really strange. I started looking at venues two years out and didn’t have that problem.

You’re a client. You’re willing to pay for what you want. Push back, and if you’re treated poorly, complain to management. You are just as deserving of time as anyone else.

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