If you both are on the same page than whatever works for you is what you should do. Just make sure you continue to be on the same page every step of the way and touch base often. A long engagement will come with questions from people. Just be prepared, people are nosy.
For me personally I have a very specific idea of what engagement means. To me, an engagement means both people are 100% sure that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. As in, someone shouldn’t propose, and accept that proposal unless they already are sure.
Now to me “Sure” means that you understand that this person is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with and you are emotionally ready and prepared for that and all that comes with being a wife or husband to that person. Logistics is an aside thing that I think is up to each couple to decide. For example, if saving up for the actual wedding is gonna take a year or 2 that doesn’t really have anything to do with being “sure” about each other, its just logistics. So a long engagement to me is totally fine if the reason you are having a long engagement is because you logistically need time to make the wedding day happen, not because you aren’t sure about marrying the actual person.
The reason I personally think its important to not propose or accept a proposal until you know you want to marry someone, and would go out and do it that day “sure” about it, is because I have seen lots of guys (more than women in my experience) who don’t understand the gravity of a proposal and see it as a way of buying time, or as a forward step but still need more time to decide if they actually see the woman as the person they want to marry. I think that not only cheapens the experience, but can also be incredibly hurtful to the other person being proposed to when they think it is a go, but the guy doesn’t. Obviously this isn’t everyones idea of what engagement is, but it does happen. On the bee alone we have seen the guy who proposes but won’t let the woman plan a wedding, wont pick a date etc.
Most recently I had a friend’s boyfriend go ahead and ask her father for her hand saying that he was intending to propose. He then didn’t propose for 6+ months after asking her father, and then ended up dumping her instead of proposing and ended the relationship. Her father was incredibly hurt as was my friend because the step of asking the father shouldn’t happen either until the guy is 100% sure he is ready to propose, and soon.
To summarize haha, I think engagement should happen when you know 100% that someone is your person and your ready for marriage completely. The length of the engagement should entirely rest upon the logistics, not the concept of being ready.
I tried really hard to explain that well, hope i did! lol