(Closed) Long engagments

posted 11 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 62
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1049 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

We have been together for 7 years now and we got engaged a little over 2 years ago. The engagement and wedding planning process have been really smooth because we never felt rushed. Now that we’re 3 weeks away from the wedding there’s hardly anything to do but be excited about it! I’d definitely recommend a long engagement. It’s nice to be able to enjoy it and show off your ring. 🙂

Post # 63
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Fiance and I dated for over 3 years before we were engaged July 2009.  Our wedding date is set for May 2011.  Why the long engagement?  We both were in school getting our masters, ( I graduated in August, and he will be in August this year).  We decided to foot the bill on our own for the wedding, so now it is out to the work force to made the money to pay for our wedding.  It has been worth it to us to have a long engagement, and not go into debt over our wedding. Plus, we have been able to take our time in making our decisions.  We have a better idea of who we are as a couple, and what we want together.  This wedding is not all about me … it is about us!

Post # 64
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Our engagement will have been one year and three days long:)  It’s been a lot of fun, but sooooooo long to me!  I think it’s a little harder for us because we’re waiting to get married before we have sex.  In some ways, it’s been difficult not to attack him with my hormones, but I’m really glad we’ve been able to be together when we knew we were both committed enough to get married, but sex not being a factor in our committment or closeness.  It does make me feel more confident about us. (This certainly isn’t to judge anybody who DIDN’T wait…every relationship is wonderfully different!)

This will definitely be logistically difficult in some ways because of the timing of our wedding…I will just be starting grad school when we get married and he’ll be working a tough new job, but I don’t want to wait any more!  Not JUST to have sex, but to be able to accomplish these life goals with each other through the closeness marriage brings.

Post # 65
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’ve been together for 6 years and recently got engaged and are looking towards a May 2012 wedding. We’re waiting two years because I want to finish grad school first (December 2011) and want to allow myself a good six months of pure wedding plannning bliss and/or diy madness .  Seeing as we’ll be paying for our own wedding, two years gives us plenty of time to save too. And it’s great because we haven’t experienced any backlash from anyone when we tell them we’re going to wait awhile, which I definitely appreciate 🙂

Post # 66
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71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

well my fiance and I got engaged on february 13th of this year 2010. we will be getting married on October 19, 2012. 2 Years, 8mths, 6days. Its going to be hell waiting that long. We can to this decision due to the fact that I am a perfectionist. It gives me more time to figure out exactly what I want without having to stress about it, plus saving more money to give us the wedding of our dreams doesn’t hurt either! I am also hiring a wedding planner to make sure everything is perfect and gets done accordingly!

Post # 67
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3450 posts
Sugar bee

Mr.TKE and I hit our 2 year anniversary of being engaged in Feb and we have no plans of a wedding coming up. It may be another 2 years. It really doesn’t matter all that much to me. I love him, he loves me, that’s what matters.

Post # 68
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2455 posts
Buzzing bee

Our engagement will be over 19 months long…8 months down and 11 months to go. We’re in our late 20s so school isn’t an issue. However, we are paying for the entire wedding (including our parents’ trips for our destination wedding) ourselves so we wanted to make sure we had enough time to save. We want to pay for everything in cash (debit or CC but so we have money to immediately pay off) and not have the wedding put us into debt. 

Ideally we’d prefer to be married by now but we both know that this decision makes the most sense. Additionally, the long time frame also gives our guests more time to plan/save. 

Post # 69
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143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Our engagment will be a little under 2 years.  We chose to do to wait so long because I am still in graduate school and we are saving up to pay for it all ourselves.  The negative is that I don’t wait that long!!  But it does take the pressure off and allow me to take a break from wedding stuff when school gets really busy.  Do what works for you!  If you are in school I recommend the long engagement because it gives you more flexibility in planning.

Post # 70
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1732 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Being engaged for almost 2 years was the best decision we made.  It’s been virtually stress-free.  We have time to do one thing at a time, so nothing is rushed and it’s all still fun.  It’s been great to save money too.

The only hard thing is being patient.  I’m very, very, very excited.

Post # 71
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1682 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So. Fiance and I have been engaged for a year already (05/06/09) and will probably be for another 5 years. YIKES. That’s a 6 year engagement.

I just finished a diploma in Law Clerk and have been accepted to University for a BA – FI is also studying for his CGA part-time right now. So there’s no wedding planning going on right now, just a LOT of dreaming…

we cannot afford to host a wedding while relying on student loans and part-time jobs, and neither set of parents can pay for a wedding either. So thats 1 year already gone, and then 4 for the BA, and another to plan & save = 6 years.

Although, I think of it this way – we’re going to be together no matter what, for the rest of our lives, so whats 6 years? A blip. A really long, depressing blip that makes me wince with how long it is. Ouch. 🙂

 

 

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