(Closed) Long explanation, Mom's wedding next week, need some suggestions.

posted 6 years ago in Encore
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

What about a unity candle ceremony intead? You can all have a lit candle and light one big candle together.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I like the unity candle idea. Or sand ceremony. That one is common, too. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

What about something that shows how you each will support the newly married couple? Making it more about that you support your parents and value their relationship. I’m trying to think what would do that… like contributing pieces that become a whole of something? Each putting a couple flowers in a vase to make a beautiful bouquet? And then some sort of commentary about how each of you is such an important part of your parents’ lives and together it makes something more beautiful than what each alone was?

I’d be annoyed with the Reverend, but it sounds like she is super insistent.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@HappySky7:  I can relate! I have two “step sisters” (we were all over 20 when they started dating and live across the country from each other). I’ve seriously only met them like 10 times, if that, and they’ve been married for 6 years.

One is preg and thankfully due a few weeks before my wedding (early enough it won’t interfere with SM coming to the wedding, because my dad would have made me move it, but close enough that there’s no way she’ll come). I’m hoping the other opts not to come too. Courtesy invites.

I’m an only child and the first time I saw one of their kids call my dad Grandpa/give him a gift that said Grandpa, it stung big time. I’m over it now, but yeah – becoming step-siblings as adults is totally weird.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think NAvery’s suggestion is a good one. I’ve also seen this done with rocks — you could, if needed, adapt the “guestbook rocks” idea and all write a message to your parent and step-parent.

Good luck, and I’m sorry that this is so awkward!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Each family member carry a flower and hand it to your mom- and she hands it off to you?

 

I have grown up _ step brothers- my mom married when I was in late 20’s.  Turned out I actually DATED one of them in middle school.  We all laugh about it.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d go with teh candle or the sand. Hugging is just weird.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - UK

I second the candle idea, and it’s something that’s a fairly common thing to do in churches as well – with the Christening Candle, Advent Candles etc. I’d think it works both on a Church-level and a Family-uniting level without being too awkward.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Darn it’s too bad they didn’t go for the bouquet idea! I thought that was so creative. Can’t they just suck it up considering that the alternative is hugging?

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I’m seconding the motion for unity candles.  Could each set of siblings collectively light one candle, and then the bride and groom could take those two candles and light one larger candle with them?  That omits any sort of physical contact between the sibs, while providing the symbolism you’re seeking. 

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

I was going to say the bride and groom should just tell the reverend flat out that they aren’t going to put on a ridiculous charade in front of god and man, but then I saw the update. Can’t blame mom for trying, but I am glad the situation resolved itself. 🙂

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