(Closed) Long rant about everything

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
5046 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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galephys:  Aw, you do sound like you have a lot on your plate right now and I’m sure the added stress of planning a wedding long distance is not helping. Is there anything you can do daily or every other day to give you some relaxing time? I know I like to soak in a bubble bath, with low lights, and soothing music. Even if it’s just for 20 minutes it’s such a relaxation. I think it’s going to be very important for you to find a little time to decompress each day.

Health: abnormal paps are pretty common, but yeah, I’d be looking elsewhere for a sooner appointment. And I’m sorry you have to wait for the MS test, too. That would be very stressful!

Dog: I’m so sorry, I have dogs too and it’s hard when they’re sick. Can you just bring your mattress downstairs easily on your own? Not the whole bed?

Fiance: Well… most dudes just aren’t into planning like we are, especially weddings. Makes it harder that he’s far away. You may just need to try to accept that. Trust me, learning to accept things sometimes, makes it so you won’t feel upset.

Couch: I know it must’ve been awful at the time, but it really reminds me of us moving into our house. Our couch wouldn’t fit through the door! We had to literally kick it into the house. Of course I had people around to help me. Hopefully that’s something you’ll look back on and laugh about.


Post # 3
6573 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You definitely have a lot going on and I think it is a good time for you to stop everything and re-prioritize. Do you really need all that DIY stuff for your wedding? (answer: no.)  What kind of around-the-house stuff can you pay someone else to do for you, such as cleaning or grocery shopping?  You may not want a full-time maid but it might be worth spending the money for a one-time visit right now, or a one-time handyman, whatever. Get the wedding alcohol delivered to the venue– just call a local store that has delivery service. It might cost a bit more but it is probably worth some money to have one less thing to do right now. 

Basically sort out all your to-do list by what absolutely must be done on a deadline, what is nice to have, what can wait and what doesn’t matter. Don’t let a good deal (like a sofa) distract you right now: there is always something on a good sale, every day. There will be another sofa sale. Stick to your priorities, hire out whatever you can hire out, and don’t try so hard to make every single thing happen.

Oh and for your dog, I know it really sucks but it is probably best for both of you if you barricade the stairs and just let him sleep downstairs while you sleep upstairs. You shouldnt be dragging your bed all over the place and shouldn’t be sleeping on the floor.  Leaving him downstairs is going to be way harder on you than on him; after a night or two, he will go right to his dog bed without a complaint and he won’t love you any less. One less thing for you to stress yourself over.

Post # 6
417 posts
Helper bee

First I am sorry about all the challenges you are currently facing.

1. Have you tried to find a computer expert who can recover the corrupted data? I know there are some that are specialists in fast margic. (Not in contact with that person only longer, but Google might help.)

2. Foundation issues. Do any of your neighbors recall seeing a engineering or construction company vehicle at the house? (You might need to supena the records.)Does the home inspection company have any liability? Did the previous owner pull any permits that might indicate knowledge of foundation issues?

3. Poor puppy. I hope he is feeling better soon. Could you sleep on an air mattress for the recovery period? The new ones are pretty comfortable.

4. Poor you. I hope you are feeling better soon. PP is correct. Abnormal pap smears are very common. Most times it is nothing. But because once in a blue moon they are something, they need to be checked out. MS is scary. But keep in mind that doctors often test for MS in order to be able to test for everything. (Insurance companies are difficult and testing for MS takes a lot of tests)

5. Get to know people. Volunteer in the AM. Find a team sport.

6. Weddings and marriages are different. Most men don’t put a big priority on the wedding just the marriage.  Can someone else there help you and him with the decor?


I use Scwans and friends use a grocery service to save time and money. (Yes there is a fee, but you avoid impulse purchases.)

Check your local woman’s club or newspaper for some else to team up on big home projects with. 

Good luck.



  • This reply was modified 6 years, 7 months ago by handa.
Post # 7
75 posts
Worker bee

Wow…youre having a bad time. I don’t have any real good advice but I’m praying for you and sending you virtual hugs!!!

Post # 9
417 posts
Helper bee

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Glad some of the brainstorm was useful. As my dad says  “Even a blind pig will pick up an acorn once in a while.” Haha!

I hope all of the doctoring goes well for both of you.

Remember there are lots of people who work at hospitals and nursing homes. If you go to the same ones regularly strike up a conversation or two. Also, you will have your dog along as a conversation starter and a second opinion on people.  (I have found that my dogs liked more people than I did; but the people my dog didn’t like were really bad people.)

I also hope the wedding goes well.


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