(Closed) long rant sorry: but im sick ofcutting things out to cut costs.

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry that you can’t have everything that you want.  I hope that things are cleared up with your Fiance and he feels better.  Maybe you could do a bigger celebration on your 1 year anniversary when you have a little money saved up?

Post # 4
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This is going to sound kind of… cliche and weird I guess, but it sounds like you need to decide what is really more important, in the end: being married, or getting married.

If getting married is that important to you, with the wedding and the flowers and everything else, eat the cost of the legal and have the wedding when you can afford it. If being married is important, have your legal ceremony now, then do photos and a reception party down the road, when times are less tough and you can truly enjoy it.

It sounds like sadly at this point you’ll have to pick one or the other. I know that isn’t desirable, but I believe that’s probably your best option.

Post # 5
8041 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@rainbowbee:  *Hugs*

Save up and splurge for your one year anniversary!

Post # 6
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@rainbowbee:  Punkin, I’m so sorry to hear that fate dealt you a nasty hand just now…I totally understand how your mind and expectations can lead to disappointment and sorrow…it’s the little things that make a difference, and what’s neat is you still have your dress….I know money is tight, but that’s the best time to reach out to your friends….

Every girl has a friend with a shoe fetish..I know this, because I AM that friend, maybe you could borrow a pair of her favorite designer shoes and kill two birds with one stone – Awesome Shoes + Something Borrowed = HAPPY BRIDE!

Just because you can’t afford to pay someone, doesn’t mean you have to do it yourself, makeup, hair and photography are hobbies or talents that a lot of people have..once again, reach out, see who can do what…what’s the worst that can happen??  If all else fails, go to your local art schools and see what a student is willing to do for you, at a greatly reduced cost because they need the experience.

Rings are tricky, because gold is expensive….but you’d been surprised what some of your older relatives are hiding in a dusty jewelry box in the attic…now, you don’t call and solicit, but drop by for tea, start talking about the wedding and casually mention that your in the market for wedding bands…but don’t know where to start..who knows, that could be your something old right there…

I respect you wanting to do this on your own, but a little help never hurt anybody, and no one ever gets helped, if they don’t ask.

Best of luck! 


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