- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2014
It was a long stressful process but it’s done, we’re finally married! We chose to rent a small club house and had to decorate and furnish everything ourselves it since it came empty. I had to rent or buy everything down to silverware, glassware, cocktail napkins, etc. We also DIYed our flowers, photobooth, half of the food, furnish the bar and the coffee station, as well as the cupcake tower. I’m Vietnamese, he’s American so we also had a small tea ceremony before the Western wedding. Both my dresses are custom made. I told my bridesmaids to wear whatevery dresses they want in my 3 wedding colors (blush, coral or pink).
– Several guests showed up with extra people, and there’s one family of four who showed up without RSVP! I invited 130 and 120 RSVPed yes so the place was packed. This resulted in some of my friends and the vendors not having a seats. Even the MC took her date to the wedding and they took two seats without asking me. I was livid but I didn’t want to create a scene. Granted, I know her through mutual friends but WTH, she was there to work since I paid her, not to socialize!
– The DJ played only 2 slow songs (first dance and one other) and went straight into hip hop and other super dance-y songs even though I gave him our song list and asked that at least 30 mins of slow song. I feel partly responsible because I should have said something at the time but in retrospect, the dance floor was packed so most people had fun. I was just afraid that the older guests felt slighted; my Mother-In-Law had to demand the DJ to play a slow song so she could dance with her son.
– Our friend who we wanted to marry us couldn’t get ordained being from our of state but we found a civil celebrant who would sign our marriage license right after the ceremony. We came up with readings about love and wrote our own service that our friend performed at the wedding. Well, the civil celebrant had an emergency and didn’t show up, then we misplaced the license so we weren’t legally married until after we had returned from the honeymoon and went back to the court house to get replacement license. So all in all we had 3 ceremonies, the tea ceremony, the Western service, and the civil one at the court house 10 days later.
– We made wedding mad libs but we forgot the pens, ooops. In the end, only 4 mad libs were filled out.
Tips: I’m sure a lot of people have given many sage advice regarding the day of, taking easy, smile, remember to eat, etc. but mine is, you are planning a wedding without a wedding planner or official coordinator from your venue make sure you assign people to be in charge of getting things to the venue AND back! Very important LOL! I asked people to bring stuff to the venue but at the end of the party they were having too much fun to remember what went where and a lot of our stuff ended up missing.
All in all, it was a wonderful occassion, best night of my life yet! All our friends and family came together to help decorate and to put my (limited) visions together gorgeously. My cousin made 300 macarons for the favors, my SIL made an awesome LOVE light marquee. My then FI-now husband wrote a beautiful and loving personalized ceremony, which was my favorite part of the day other than seeing all of our dear friends and family who came from far away.
And now, some pics from the day. 🙂
Me walking down the “aisle”
Cutting the cake/cupcake tower:
Photobooth (which was a big hit)
All my girls being silly:
Dancing and people having fun:
Thanks for letting me share!