- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I think I just need a little bit of a rant.
Well I got engaged in February and then my sister got engaged in April I think. My fiancee and I picked a September wedding and then my sister tried setting her date for 2 weeks after ours. Luckily she came to her senses and realized that we shouldn’t have them so close together. So she moved hers. To the end of June. To be completely honest I really would not have minded her moving the date, or really even keeping the original September date but we have extremely similar tastes and ideas when it comes to the wedding planning. And we look so much alike that people even confuse us. So basically our weddings are going to look the same, only she is having hers first so it’s going to look like I copied her…even though most of the ideas that she’s using were originally mine.
I’ve been getting a little frustrated because I have been trying to set things up so that we can work on wedding plans together but it never seems to work out. I tried dresses on for the first time with only my maid of honor and I found styles that I really liked. Well then I set up a second appointment so that my sister and my mom could come. My sister ended up falling for the dresses that I liked and the veil I had my heart set on. So then I set up an appointment through another dress place and I found my dress. Now my sister is setting up her own appointment for the same place that I went and she has even been showing me dresses online that are very close to what mine looks like. This past week I set up an appointment so that we could look at invitations together and of course my fiancee and I didn’t even really get to talk to the person who came for the appointment because my sister jeopardized the whole appointment. She has also been “really liking” ideas that I have as far as photography, and music, and flowers. It’s also not easy that she’s a bridesmaid of mine and has yet to like a bridesmaid dress I’ve picked out….my maid of honor is slender while my sister is curvy so everytime I point out a dress she automatically says “well that will look good on her but bad on me”
I keep trying to do things together so that we can enjoy the experiences together but it just doesn’t seem to ever work out. My mom even made a comment that I need to stop telling my sister my ideas so that she doesn’t take anymore of them.
I know that no matter what, my wedding day is going to be the happiest day of my life but are there any ideas out there on how I can enjoy doing these fun things with her without feeling like I’m planning her wedding instead of my own? I’m nervous to say anything to her because she gets upset easily and I don’t want her to be upset while planning her wedding….although that’s a little how I’m feeling at the moment. *help*