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Our wedding will be outdoors in October. It could be 80 degrees or 50. I’m wearing long sleeves and looking at the same for my best girl friends. Problem is that I’m having a hard time finding bridesmaid dress designers with long sleeved options. Our color is purple, and to me that’s a color where the various shades and tones can clash with each other (unlike blue, where if everyone shows up in a different shade, you call it ombre and roll with it.) I’d love to do the “here’s the swatch, find whatever in this store comes in that color and makes you look awesome” method of picking dresses (e.g. “Coral- David’s Bridal- go!”) versus “here, buy this thing that may not be to your taste!” but can’t actually find any stores with enough sleeved options that that would be viable.
I did think about pairing a short-sleeved or sleeveless dress with a complementary bolero or shawl but I’d prefer not to ask my friends to purchase more than one item of apparel. Doesn’t rule out me finding an affordable wrap for everyone or something like that; just want to start with the easy things first.
Any ideas of shops or designers I may not have considered? I’ve looked at David’s, Dessy, Brideside, Weddington Way, and some local mid-Atlantic stores.
Post # 2
litebrite249 : I went with purple ombré. Not long sleeves though. I have an ivory shall for all of them as well that I bought for them. It was not the easiest but I think it’s going to be very successful. Dresses range from $34-159 depending on how much the Bridesmaid or Best Man felt comfortable spending. I ended up finding all of the dresses but gave them the options on which ones to buy. Wedding isn’t for 7 months but here’s a picture of the final dress choices.
Two are David’s Bridal, the other four are from LuLu’s.
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I got married in November and my BMs wore sleeveless dresses. I found inexpensive pashminas online and they used them a little but it wasn’t strictly necessary (it was around 50 degrees). I think it would be very difficult for you to find Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses with sleeves.
Post # 6
I think sleeveless dresses would look fine – and could you get them all pashminas in ivory or another coordinating color pretty cheaply – so they’d be warmer, if it’s cold out!
Post # 7
Remember to look at prom dress sites. They have filters for length, color, sleeve length etc.
Will the wedding be outdoors? Consider that if it is cool, it is easy to add a wrap. If it is hot, not so easy to take off long sleeves.
Post # 8
I think you should buy them boleros.
Post # 9
Thank you for the suggestions.
teacher-bee-in-the-sea : Thank you for sharing your dress pics! It’s reassuring to see an ombre that worked well. I like what you did with picking dresses in the same shade family and offering those as choices.
laura89 : Thanks for the reminder on Asos! I shop there myself and I’ll keep my eye out for options.
plannerbear520 : Thanks for sharing, this shop is new to me!
julies1949 : Good call on the prom dress sites, I’ll look there also.
I agree that a sleeveless/halter dress with a wrap would be a simple solution. It does somewhat complicate matters if it happens to slip off someone’s shoulders while their hands are busy. I ran this one by my sister (MOH); sleeves are her preference as well. I’m happy to defer to whatever the bridesmaid group thinks is going to work out best for them and keep them the most comfortable. Just looking for store options that I may not have considered, so I appreciate the suggestions here.
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litebrite249 : I’m not a fan of pashmina type wraps myself. I think they look dowdy. If I were to choose a cover up, I would go with a jacket or cardigan style.
Post # 11
I don’t have advice on the dresses with sleeves (all I could think of was unique vintage?), but I did want to add that I have been a Bridesmaid or Best Man in freezing cold in a halter dress and we had our own jackets that we slipped on between photos. The other Bridesmaid or Best Man and I even chose dresses that we could wear leggings under if it was freezing! I definitely would have appreciated sleeves, but you are honestly so busy doing Bridesmaid or Best Man stuff, that it will be ok if you need to get them sleeveless dresses. Love the idea of a bolero/ shawl, but I’m not the one wearing one!
Good luck OP, I’m sure your girls appreciate the thought you are putting in to this 🙂
Post # 12
So I also got married in October and had the same weather dilemma (as well as having two BMs that get cold easily). I let gave my girls and color and let them pick their own dresses–I suggested trying to find something with either long sleeves and/or a long dress so that they wouldn’t freeze. Three out of the four found awesome long sleeve dresses; the fourth (my Maid/Matron of Honor whom I love dearly and knew that I’d be lucky if she was even in a dress, never mind the color) waited until the last possible second and thus was sleeveless. Two of the four ended up wearing tights/leggings which was completely fine by me. I also got them really nice lambswool shawls as a bridesmaids gift–they were truly awesome shawls that I knew they’d all get use out of beyond the wedding but also doubled as a “in case you get cold and didn’t pack anything warm, here’s something that will look great with the color of your dress”
i think being upfront with your girls about the potential weather and letting them plan accordingly is more than enough honestly. Maybe consider suggesting long dresses so that tights underneath aren’t really an issue? My girls were all in burgundy, and my dress was blush, so there was a lot of potential for serious color clashing (think purple-red burgundy vs pink-red burgundy) but I sent them a few examples and they all ended up in virtually the same color even though one dress was from Old Navy, one a random foreign seller on Amazon, one BCBG, and one a TJ Maxx find. Letting them pick also made me feel less bad if they were cold because at that point, they dressed themselves :p
Post # 13
If you’d like your BMs in different gowns but with the same color while addressing the possible lower temperatures, you could always suggest an alternative for each Bridesmaid or Best Man, and give them the same coverup in case the weather gets cooler. Just an idea:
From David’s Bridal:
Either one of these, from wearall.com, at $23.25 (low stocks currently):
Post # 14
- Wedding: December 2016 - Presidio Log Cabin
I just looked on the Nordstrom and Macy’s websites and there’s a decent number of long-sleeved purple options there too if you’re open to that (though some lean a bit more towards burgundy I suppose)! I always like ordering from those stores because returns are so easy.