Post # 1
I’m trying to get over, but I’m so damn mad and sad. The venue, which I thought I had already booked, gave my date away. Now, my deposit check is in the mail coming back to me and venue says they’re all booked up for March. I really love my venue and can’t imagine starting to look for a new place. The problem is that I really wanted a March wedding. That’s part of the reason why I got an aquamarine e-ring. Their closest available date is April 13, 2013. What can I do? Do you think Fi and I can get legally married in March, but still have all the wedding stuff (i.e. cermony and reception) in April that way we can still celebrate in March?
Does that sound crazy?
Post # 3
Why does it matter that your ering is the birthstone of the month you get married? If you want an aquamrine ering, have an aquamarine ering. I think you’re reading way too much into it and making things way harder than they have to be.
Post # 4
No date at all in March? Or just not a Fri/Sat? You may have to get flexible and do it on a Thurs or Sun if having it March means that much to you.
Post # 5
If they had your cheque, did you have a contract? Did you get any kind of receipt from them for your deposit indicating what the deposit was for?
Post # 6
I dont mean this to be harsh…honestly. But… having your ring not match up with the birthstone of the month your wedding is in? First World Problems.
also not quite sure why a birthstone matters for a wedding…but either way, that doesn’t make it SUCK any less that they gave your date away…but, you can use this to your advantage, maybe demand a bit of a discount for the April date because of the inconvenience?
Post # 7
paigers91 They said they have no sat or sun available. I can’t do weekday since I have family coming in from out of the country.
julies1949 That’s part of the long story… no I was still waiting for the receipt via email.
mandypop That’s not harsh; My fi said they same thing then we laughed. Damn those first world problems!
March is already our anniversary month and I really wanted to keep it that way. Also, 3-23-13 is an all prime number date. (I’m a sucker for prime numbers). April is not a prime number month : (
Post # 8
I’m so sorry. This beyond sucks!
There are three options as I see it:
1: move the date to April. So it’s not the March wedding you’d hoped for but as the PP said you should demand sooo much: a discount, free extras, etc etc. If you want to do the “legal bit” in March I’d ask the venue to either cover those expenses or give you an additional discount from the venue price: if you’re not getting married there then it’s essentially a party and I don’t think you should be expected to pay wedding premiums. You don’t want to spend the money on a courthouse wedding no matter how small the fee.
2: change venue. This is what I’d do. Do you want to trust your wedding to a venue who can’t even work out the deposits right? Ask your current venue for suggestions, make them do some of the legwork. It’s their fault you need to look for another venue, and even though it’s 11 months away it still needs to be booked asap.
3: move that date to the following year. If you can’t budge on on either the March wedding or the venue then this is looking like the only option. But beyond sucks!! 🙁
Ultimately though, it sounds like your venue should take some responsibility.
Post # 9
That sucks that they gave away your wedding date! : / Totally understand being pissed off at that.
I would decide whether you want THAT VENUE, or your March wedding. Which one do you want more? Whichever it is, go with that one. I wouldn’t have two weddings a month apart. Seems kind of silly.
Post # 10
@HeMadeMeWantTo: ahhhhhh bummer. Well. Is it important enough to look for other venues?
I would definitely feel better about settling for April if I got a discount out of it though… its worth trying I think.
Post # 11
Can’t you select a different venue? That’s what I would do. You live in a major city, so I know there has to be more great venues to choose from, since you’re not willing to compromise on the March date.
Post # 12
So sorry this has happened! I’m sure things will work out. Can I just make a brief observation, though? (I promise I don’t mean this as an insult)… In your posts above you’ve said that a) you’re disappointed that you may not celebrate in March, because it doesn’t match up with the stone color of your ring… and b) You’re not sure whether April is a good idea because it’s not a prime number… Are you sure you don’t want to elope, or have a super simple day? Trust me, there will be MANY plans/hopes that won’t pan out along the way. I worry that you’ll drive yourself crazy by overanalyzing everything. 🙂 (I often feel like I’m going crazy and I hadn’t even considered birthstones or prime numbers!)
Hope things turn around for you! Good Luck! 🙂
Post # 13
Yikes, that’s a bummer 🙁 How about a different venue?
Post # 14
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I wouldn’t trust the venue, either- I know venue shopping is a PITA, but I think it’s a good idea to start your search again.
Post # 15
I’m really shocked that your venue did that to you, however what’s done is done. Now all you can do is try to make the best of things and carry on. Really, I think you need to decide on whether the venue or the date are more important to you.
My Fiance and I had really wanted to get married in a castle (we’re both qualified archaeologists and love historic sites), but the stairs meant that his mobility-impaired mother would have real problems and we figured we would just have to find something else…until we found one 2 weeks ago with a modern lift installed! One problem…they were fully booked all next year, which is when we wanted to have our wedding.
Long story short, we decided that the venue was more important than our preferred date, so we booked it for August THIS year! I know, I must be crazy booking a place for only 4 months away, but this way we get the venue of our dreams and I get to marry by beloved sooner rather than later 🙂