(Closed) Long Story Short…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I just go? Or not?
    Suck it in and go. : (34 votes)
    89 %
    Have "another" obligation. : (4 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    10851 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Be the bigger person and go. Don’t let them dictate your relationship with your Future Sister-In-Law.

    Post # 4
    1013 posts
    Bumble bee

    You have to go.  Even if you for some reason dont get along, you dont need to make things worse by not going.

    I will say that i dont particularly like my SIL’s either.  But i’m respectful of them and i try to be nice (even when the one makes me want to punch her).

    Post # 6
    550 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Sorry to hear about your situation, thats has to suck.


    I would suggest you go. You don’t really need any more “drama” from them!



    Post # 7
    4770 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    meh i say no go.  If someone obviously dosn’t want me around, the last thing I wanna do is be around.

    Post # 8
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Suck it up and go. Be poliet and respectful. Stay a reasonable amount of time. Then have “previous engagement” for which you have to leave a bit early.

    Post # 9
    610 posts
    Busy bee

    I would go, but I would put a positive spin on it for myself. Like, “Awesome! I get to go and be wonderful and happy and show them all that I am not affected by their negativity.”

    I dunno, maybe it comes from working in customer service but I always find delight in being overly nice to the people who are the sourest. It is SO hard to continue being mean to someone who is acting really happy towards you. As long as you can pull it off without coming across as totally fake though, otherwise it may backfire!

    Post # 11
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would base my decision on the relationship with the Future SIL. If you feel like you have a good relationship with her and want to be there for her than go and ignore the other biotches!  If you dont think she cares for you much either than skip it all together

    Post # 12
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    If you don’t go it will make you look bad. I would just suck it up, show up with a happy face and a cute outfit and just make an appearance. You don’t have to stay the whole time, but definitely show up. 🙂

    Post # 14
    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    It’s about the bride, not the hostesses. Just go.

    Post # 15
    2742 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would go. I don’t know what your relationship is with Future Sister-In-Law but please, (I’m sure you don’t do it now) do not confide in her about the uneasy relationship you have with the other SIL’s because it could get back to them and cause drama. Just keep your distance. Some folks are lucky enough in their IL’s some are not. Just thank God that they don’t poke their nose in your marriage. Keep your head high and enjoy your relationship with your husband.

    Ps. Make sure you shine your rings, wear a banging outfit with nice makeup and smile smile smile as if your heart depends on it at the shower Innocent

    Post # 16
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I agree with BrightGreen. Go, and be your loveliest self, but don’t be fake about it. The lecture I would give myself would be: “right, there’s going to be lots of people here, including future extended family. My aim is to be polite and charming and the nicest version of myself that I can be, so no-one can say that I was rude to SILs or that I had anything to do with creating an air of awkwardness for Future Sister-In-Law at her shower”. It requires a game-face, but you could see it as a personal challenge. Offer to help with any serving etc at the party, but don’t make a face if the offer is rebuffed. When you get to the front door, take a second to compose yourself and be ready to be lovely. You’ll feel better for being the bigger person too…

    Good luck! 🙂

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