- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
your friends are wrong and rude. you two have been together for 1.5 years and now living together, you two are a unit, an automatic plus one. I cant blame her for being angry. she should be completely insulted, as well as you should be. she isnt some girl you picked up at a bar the night before. the two of you are very established. Very thoughtless.
I think it was rude for you to ASK if she’s invited. Couples put a lot of thought into who they are inviting. It causes a lot of stress and worry about balancing people’s feelings and a budget. Also 1.5 years is hardly a ‘long term’ relationship to be outraged over.
It is not up to outsiders to judge how long is “long enough”; if two people say they are a couple, they are a couple and both are invited or neither of them.
You don’t ask someone to celebrate your relationship while you are invalidating theirs.
A SO is not a plus one. A plus one is a date and the invitation is optional. An SO is half of a social unit and the invitation is required.
A year and a half sounds like a long time to me; DH and I had been married for a year by the time we’d been together for a year and a half. If he weren’t invited somewhere, I wouldn’t go; nor would I remain friends with whoever didn’t invite him.
ughh this is tough!! You explained the situation really well so kudos!
I feel like each side is a bit wrong and right and you are just caught in an awful middle section.
I wouldn’t want you to miss it though because she feels slighted but I can imagine it feels quite awful.
sorry I’m no help here. following to see what you do
I am going to go ahead and close this thread as it is two years old 🙂
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