Post # 1
Hi everyone! I’ve been following these boards for awhile now. Actually, I started scouring them when I was deciding on getting a dress overseas. (DressilyMe)
My wedding is May 4th, so I’m getting into full gear with my planning. I have my first real issue. My bridesmaids have purchased dresses according to my color scheme and style suggestions, because I didn’t want them all to look the same. However, now I want the groomsmen to wear blue suits and my fiancee is balking at the idea. He thinks that $120 suit from OverStock is asking too much of his guys.
I’m not sure of tux rental prices…but isn’t it more than this just to rent a tux?? I wouldn’t think that buying cheap suit would be that big of a deal, especially since none of his groomsmen are hurting for cash, and if they were, I’m sure we could work that out. Plus, my ladies plopped down the money for their dresses with no issues or debate.
So I guess what I’m asking is…what is the best way to approach this? Am I out of line? Thanks and nice to “meet” all of you! 🙂
Post # 3
I assumed it was common knowledge that the wedding party pays for their wedding attire.
And $125 is an awsome price for the grooms men! Tuxes can run up to $200 or more!
I suggest taking Fiance to a tux shop and letting him see exactly how much tuxes are. He may change his mind about it being “too much”!
Post # 4
If Fiance thinks $120 is too much, take him to Men’s Wearhouse & price rentals. He’ll come around.
He probably hasn’t rented a tux since prom & has no idea how much they cost.
Post # 5
Yep, rental prices would be about the same. Show your fiancé some prices and he’ll see the light. 😉
Post # 6
Our guys are renting tuxes and they’re around $160 once you add in tax and all. I was floored– I guess I remember the $99 tuxes from prom and college formals– but that’s WAY cheap to buy a suit. I’d just maybe double check the quality and fit– try and find some reviews of the maker online to show to your fiance’. Girls usually spend that much or more on a wedding.
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! Actually, I showed him this thread with your responses and he agreed that he was being a little ridiculous. I just don’t think that a lot of men really know how much money the ladies spend on the attire / looks for the day. Kind of frustrating, but we do at least have one of the groomsmen (out of five), on board with the purchase. 🙂
Post # 8
tux rentals will be around $200. The lowest quote I got was $175 highest was $250
Post # 9
Take him to look at some possible tuxes and he’ll soon see what a good deal you are getting and change his mind 🙂
Post # 10
@mobiusbox: While I agree with previous posters that your groom will likely come around once he has a chance to price rental clothing, you might want to pour yourself a stiff scotch, or a nice cup of tea, and adopt the lotus position while you chant to yourself “Bridesmaids are the bride’s responsibility; Groomsmen are the groom’s responsibility.” Letting another person have the control that goes with his responsibilities, trusting his judgement, and being willing to compromise your vision of perfection out of respect for him; are life-skills that will help your marriage be more perfect even if your wedding is less perfect.
Frankly, every gentleman should own a good plain well-made and well-fitted dark suit, appropriate for wearing to unexpected funerals, exciting big-city job interviews, and the occasional invitation to dinner with the Governor General. And appropriate to wear when standing up in a friend’s wedding: I find the most natural and attractive weddings are wear the groomsmen look like actual suit-owning gentlemen and not like a chorus-line in matching costumes. Unfortunately, you are not going to get that kind of a suit for $120 even at Overstock.com (a general rule for the last couple of centuries has been that a good man’s suit costs an ounce of gold — $1663 as of today.) But you might come close enough to suit the tastes of the non-suit-owning gentlemen in your wedding party, if they aren’t very picky and especially if you go for a very dark navy or midnight blue, or a very dark charcoal grey, which is likely to be more versatile than a brighter blue would be.
Post # 11
Renting a tux will be AT LEAST 100 bucks, more if you don’t want the cheapest crap they have. And you don’t get to keep it. 120 is a fantastic deal for a suit they can wear again.
ETA: Our guys got theirs at JCP, I think they paid… 100 for the vest, pants and jacket. Check them out. They also do some pretty good Easter sales on their suits.