(Closed) “Long time no see, are you preg-” “-NO!”

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

You’re still mad after a year?  I know that no one likes to be mistaken for pregnant when they’re not, but that’s a long time to hold onto that.  It’s an honest mistake, and some people just don’t know that unless a woman ANNOUNCES she’s pregnant, you DON’T ask.  But I think after a year that they’ve probably completely forgotten about it or really hope that you have.  If it was last week, I’d say expect an apology.  But a year?  Realistically, expect them to have no idea why you’re not excited to see them.

For the record, this has happened to me, but I was mostly embarassed, not angry.  I ended up losing 20lbs because of it, so I consider the person who asked my personal motivator.  Maybe you could try to put a positive spin on what happened?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agree with MightySapphire.   I would just let it go.  I’m sure she’s super-embarassed and hoping you forgot about it.  No reason to hold a grudge.

Post # 5
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

In addition to what MightySapphire and hotchild said, also remember that a lot of shirts these days kinda look like maternity shirts, not even because of the person wearing them, but just from how they’re designed. Silly fashion.

Post # 6
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Yeah… it was an honest mistake. Something you could possibly laugh off? 🙂

I’m sure she felt just as bad about it and was very embarrassed. Definitely be nice to her and carry on.

Post # 7
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Eh, it happens. Don’t take it personally. Just don’t wear that shirt tomorrow….=]

Post # 8
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5823 posts
Bee Keeper

PS-This is exactly why up until I WAS pregnant I refused to wear anything with an empire waist.  Those darn things just SCREAM pregnant!

Post # 9
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476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

This has happened to me too.  I say just fake sweet and don’t let it bother you too much.

Post # 10
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5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

Happened to me twice-didn’t like it, but got over it quickly…

Post # 11
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

As the other ladies mentioned, I wouldn’t take it personally. I am sure it was embarrassing for the both of you. She most likely won’t make that mistake again!

@Mighty – I second not wearing Empire waisted shirts! They aren’t too bad when your preggie though

Post # 12
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I love wearing comfy sun dresses, so despite being tall and thin, I have definitely been asked on multiple occations.  I still get embarassed whenever people ask me, but I ultimately have made the decision to just let it go because I’d rather do that than give up my favorite clothing 🙂

Post # 13
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree with everyone else. I would just pretend like it never happened and treat her like a student and not someone who accidentally insulted you a year ago. She is most likely very embarrased and would appreciate it if things were normal.

Post # 14
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Must agree; as embarassing and mad as it might have made you @ the time; it’s been over a year & I’m sure she felt pretty stupid after asking so I’d give her a break. It was probably taken as more of a blow to your ego than her trying to insult you. It sucks but I say just let it motivate you. Or blow it off and forget it. Some people just don’t know when to think before they speek.

Post # 16
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5498 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yes…at work no less.  Ugh! You can’t slap someone from across the counter…(I kid, I kid. I wouldn’t slap them).

I understand you are annoyed, but since it’s been a year I would laugh it off. = )

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