- 5 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
Been trying to decide whether or not to put this out there, but I’m getting to the point where I need to decide. I truly hope this is a unique situation. I welcome thoughts/suggestions whatnot. Sorry it’s so long. I’ll say right off, I am keeping my sense of humor about the whole thing.
Quick background – I was an intern during college with a large company where I knew one of the higher level execs – let’s call him David – for a few years before. I finished the internship and was just finishing exams when David called. He’d had to fire one of his staff just before a major project and was desperate. He’d gotten the OK to bring me in temporarily. After the project was completed, the company went through their regular hiring process and I got the position permanently. That was almost five years ago. I love the work, love the challenge, and have been praised for my ability to ‘handle’ David who has his moments.
The problem? A group of women in the company have formed a very tight clique and the woman I replaced was in it. My first day in the position, the leader of the group – “Sheila” – came in and told me not to get too comfortable that David and I would be out the door within the week. Great first impression. Once I was hired, a few of them seemed more friendly, but once it became obvious that I was not going to be a source of gossip, they began to shun me. Which suited me just fine. I don’t work closely with any of them so our contact is minimal. Until this year. My boyfriend and I decided to get married. Though I don’t talk about personal life around the office (except for with David) but I swear there are women in the company who have psychic powers when it comes to major life changes. Within days of the ring landing on my finger, everyone knew. And the weirdness started.
I met a friend for lunch one day to begin planning. I came out from telling David where I was going and realized one of the group had overheard. Didn’t think much of it until the entire group walked into the café. ‘Oh what a coincidence’ and promptly pulled up a table to join me. My friend (Bless her) quietly put away our plan stuff and we had lunch. The women, especially Sheila, were just full of ideas of what I should do, should wear, where I should honeymoon, etc. I just took it all in and laughed my butt off about it later. A few days later, Sheila came to me one day and handed me an envelope. “You’ll need this for the planning”. Inside was a list of every single person that works for the company, their spouse or S.O. and kids along with addresses *for my wedding invitations*. I gave it back to her with the standard ‘we’re keeping this a small, intimate event’. Sheila got very perturbed. Seems I don’t understand how things are done, how things work, and what’s expected. She left it on my desk and I shredded it. One of the other women brought it up a week or so later and I repeated the ‘keeping it small’. She said ‘oh but Sheila said she explained this to you’. A few more passive/aggressive comments and it all died down.
Then I started overhearing things. Every year this group of women take a long weekend and go somewhere together. This coming year – their plan is to **crash my wedding**. I have no idea why they would want to, except to create drama for me. I’ve heard chatter from the break room and other offices. Sheila’s voice tends to carry. Her common refrain is that if they are staying in the hotel, I can’t keep them out of the wedding ceremony. They’ve talked about the hotel, the drive out, what they’re going to wear, what they’re going to do on Friday and Sunday, so on and so forth. Their latest conversation, they were comparing photos of dresses. David knows it’s happening and though it’s killing him to stay out of it, he is. I’m keeping my sense of humor and not totally freaking out for two reasons.
One – the hotel? Is not my wedding venue. I know exactly how they identified it. I was keeping a folder in my case with several brochures and printouts. I never noticed one was missing until it turned up folded in half under my desk calendar. It’s a beautiful location but cost way too much money for what they’re offering, and were much too snooty for our tastes. The papers either got missed during that luncheon or I dropped it at some point.
Two – their trip is scheduled in two weeks. No idea where they got that date. My wedding was the weekend before Christmas. (Yeah not the date in my profile. I instinctively restrict what I put online.)
So. Yeah it’s funny. Take your minute to laugh. But it’s a dilemma. What do I do now? Part of me thinks it’s a scam just a poorly planned one Just seeing how far they can push before I react. If it is, I don’t want to respond at all. My lack of reaction is really starting to piss off Sheila. I walked by a few of them when they were talking about their dresses and someone hushed Sheila, she just sneered at me and said something like ‘what’s she going to do’. But if they are really going to the hotel, I’m split on what to do. I could do nothing, let them go and waste their money and their weekend. But it’s a very expensive hotel with not much to do nearby. And I can see this being a major source of drama for a while. I could just cut David loose, he’s dying to show off his photos. But part of me wants to let it play out. I so want to see how they react. What can they do? Rant about how I ruined their plans?
So…… Thanks for reading. Any thoughts?