(Closed) long… trying to decide what to do with weird situation

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Commenting purely because I want to know how this pans out.  What sad bitches! 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I was getting REALLY pissed until you dropped the bomb that you already got married and they had bad information.

 

I say let them go. If they’re crazy enough to think it is acceptable to crash a wedding when they KNOW they weren’t invited, let them waste their time and money and go on a wild goose chase.

 

And when they come back and ask what happened? Play COMPLETELY dumb. They did this behind your back, there’s no reason you need to acknowledge that you knew. Be honest once they say what they did. Pull out an album, show the wedding ring, whatever. 

 

This is an absurd situation but as there is nothing they can do to ruin it for you, you should ABSOLUTELY have fun with it. They’re completely in the wrong and this is a way to get back at them!

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Wow what a mental group of women! Though as someone else mentioned – you may not have all the information, and there might be more to the story.

Good on you for rising above and ignoring their weird workplace games! I agree with most – continue to ignore them – and laugh about it when they figure out they got it wrong and look like morons..

And definitely; if what these women are doing is affecting your livelihood, make sure you speak with someone about it – and/or make diary notes on specific instances where you’re made to feel belittled or uncomfortable.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Well technically you are already playing into their game and they are winning since you are even spending a minute of your time thinking about it.

Honestly I am guessing they have no weekend planned and are just trying to get a rise out of you which seems to working. Just ignore them.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Wow this all just sounds so … highschool. I would definitely talk to HR about it that kind of persecution is just not normal. I think it’s best you just stay out of if.

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m thirding the suggestion that you go to your HR department NOW. These women sound batshit crazy and deserve to be disciplined. That being said, they also deserve  to waste their time and money at a hotel thinking they’re going to crash your wedding – I would freaking love to be a fly on the wall and get to see their faces when they realize the truth! No way should you let the truth out before then.

 But seriously, someone needs to put their foot down with these women – who is their boss? Why are they being allowed to behave in such a catty manner?

Post # 24
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Eckle:  
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@Wonderstruck:  What could she complain to HR about?

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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@paula1248:  How about the threat on her first day, the passive aggressive comments, and the tense social dynamic that isn’t condusive to the work place that these ladies have created to exclude her?

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

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@paula1248:  That is a very good question.

The OP doesn’t have any kind of legal challange. But because this behavior of the crazy women is so ODD, I think it would be good for HR to know about it.

THe OP can’t show herself as a whiner, she needs to be upbeat and professional and just present this as something that is so odd, she thought HR would be interested, forming a baseline IN CASE IT ESCALATES.

What if the crazed women start doing things such as:sabitoging the OP’s work? Playing prank calls, pulling pranks that might actually injure her?

It’s almost a guarantee that this group of crazy women have pulled shit like this before, and if any of the HR people have been around for any length of time, they will have heard about it.

Another reason to talk with HR is to identify Sheila as especially nutty so that if Sheila applies for a promotion, HR can factor in her past insane behavior.

Clearly the boss of these women isn’t telling them to cut out the stupid chit at work, so HR may be the OP’s only recourse.

 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee

Did Sheila violate any company policies on privacy, etc., when she handed the OP an envelope containing names of spouses, SO’s, children, and home addresses for all the employees? Or would that be considered non-private information?

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@paula1248:  Exactly what 
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@Eckle: said. I know that my company’s HR department wouldn’t put up with it.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

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@KCKnd2:  That’s a good point (about company employees and names of their spouses and children) and OP could mention that as well in her little chat with HR.

Post # 31
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Newbee

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@KCKnd2:  I agree, wherever I have worked you were not allowed to give away any personal information of employees nevermind thier families! I’ve heard of people getting in trouble for giving away just phone numbers. I would be so upset if I knew someone gave another person my home address!

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