(Closed) long… trying to decide what to do with weird situation

posted 8 years ago in Career
Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I also don’t think you should say anything. If they want to make fools of themselves, they’re welcome to. Or maybe they’ll have a fun weekend anyway. They’re trying to get some reaction out of you, and even you telling them that your wedding isn’t there is a reaction. In their minds it will prove that you really care about what they are up to.

Plus I just love the image of them wandering around the hotel looking for your wedding that isn’t happening.

I don’t think I would tell HR., but if you do be sure David backs you up about how crazy these ladies are.

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

They have/had no intention of crashing your wedding.  They’re just being a bunch of bitches.  When I hear stories like this I’m so glad that I work mainly with men.  🙂  Just keep ignoring them…that seems to be the best defense against them.

By The Way…old Sheila in particular is creating a hostile work environment.  She would be fired at my office.

Post # 49
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Busy bee

@wolf987:  what a bunch of nuts! Do and say nothing, let them have their weekend away. See, if they’d come out and actually told you what they were planning, that they’d at least like to go to the ceremony, you could have set them straight. BUT, they decided to be sneaky and bitchy, so that’s their problem!

Post # 50
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Wow. This is crazy! I too want to know what happens next.

OP, good for you for keeping it classy!

Post # 51
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

This sounds like it should be the sequel to the mean girls movie!  Seriously…  I would just leave it alone, if they go to all the expense of going thru with the plan you are hearing, then the jokes on them isn’t it.lol 

You never gave them any info on anything, so they have come up with all this on their own and it’s of no fault to you.  sit back and have a laugh at their expense and make sure you update us!

Post # 52
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m very interested to hear what happens with this.  I think you have handled things perfectly. Please keep us updated, and good luck dealing with them in the future!

Post # 53
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395 posts
Helper bee

Ha ha, I love that you’re married already and they totally missed it!

Yanno how sometimes brides make little welcome bags for their oot guests? It would be funny to send some of those to the hotel for them and include a couple pictures from the wedding they missed.

Do be sure to let us know what happens when they get back!

ETA: Since they’re so interested in your wedding, did they ever bother to plan a work bridal shower for you? Or have any of them given you gifts?

Post # 54
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@Bebealways:  + a million

I find this hilarious, and kind of sad. Just let it play out, see what happens when they come back. Smile real big and ask how their trip was.

Post # 55
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11231 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

dbl.

Post # 56
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think that you are handling this perfectly – just keep not saying a thing! And ditto to the other girls, would love an update as this all plays out.

Post # 57
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Busy Beekeeper

@wolf987:  I haven’t read through all the comments, but:  DO NOT REACT.  Keep doing exactly what you are doing.  They are planning a nice, long weekend – and I love that  you will be no where near the event and your wedding is long gone.  🙂  If they have THIS much time on their hands, then they can do whatever they wish.  You are not going to change them – you can only change how you respond (or don’t respond).  If you feed into their behavior by giving them attention, you will just fuel the fire.  Carry on, don’t talk to David about it, and do your job.  End of story.  Good luck with the antics.  

Post # 58
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1019 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

ahahaha. don’t say a word, let them waste their money- maybe it’ll teach ’em a lesson (probably not… but maybe!)

Post # 59
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257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I had women in my office who just assumed they were going to be invited to my wedding and were super passive aggressive towards me when they realized they weren’t. Just how things are in a smaller office!

But I agree- ignore them, let them do their trip- not your problem!

Post # 60
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322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Keep on Keepin on! Just don’t get involved and wait for the reaction. I can’t wait to hear how it worked out!

Post # 61
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@KCKnd2:  “hoisted on their own petard” — how have I lived my whole life without ever hearing this phrase?!?  I swear on everything holy that I will use this tomorrow, not once but TWICE!  

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