- 7 years ago
My Fiance ( way before he met me) used to get his hair cut at a local barber shop. The girl who cut his hair was around his age, single and has a young child. My Fiance and she become friends and nothing more. He even went out on a date with another girl who worked there once, that is how platonic this friendship was. So– fast forward to a month or two after the date.. the two coworkers have a falling out over my FI! The “friend” got jealous that the girl went on ONE date. My Fiance says it was one of the worst dates and it ended pretty abruptly.. so there is no reason why this girl would/should even be jealous.
So.. that was a couples of years ago.. my Fiance has obviously moved on ( in his personal life AND in his taste in barber shops haha) but decides he wants this girl JANE to trim up his beard ( he is wayyyy too picky). He asks me if I am cool with it– which I am, they were nothing more than friends. She always did a good job according to him and he has been bouncing around town from barber to barber. So, he wants me to meet her first, which was totally cool with me… and he told me all of the backstory. Witin the first 5-6 seconds of meeting her she immediately sized me up and decided she didn’t like me. That’s fine… I let it go. We made small talk, but she was obviously not impressed with me haha. While we are sitting there, she runs her fingers all through his hair… which, OK– I get it… you do hair but we are in public and have some control!
Fiance and I get in the car and leave and I mention that she didn’t like me. He says he didn’t notice anything ( obviously it was a woman to woman thing I guess) and that I probably was just reading between the lines too much. So- I agree and say that it could be a possibility and let it go. He says he did feel a little weird that she was rubbing his hair in front of me ( and her bf), but he didn’t think it was “like that”.. and truthfully I let it go since her boyfriend was sitting right there, too.
Last night Fiance asks me to go with him to get his hair cut. He hasn’t been since that day we met her a couple months ago and actually went to another barber. We drive to her house and she is a babysitter during the day so kids are running around. She lets us in and completely ignores me… so I am just standing in her living room. She tells Fiance he can sit wherever he would like, so after awkwardly standing there I just take a seat next time him until the last of the kids gets picked up. So, he we are… they’re making small talk. She starts telling him stories about people/kids I don’t know that he does. We are still waiting for the last of the kids to get picked up.. and I am finding absolutely nothing to say to this woman! She hasn’t said one word to me yet and her bog is humping my leg so the weirdness factor is now shotting through the roof. She picks up a bag that belongs to one of the toddlers and it is a Vera Bradley bag ( which has a certain type of pattern to it) and Fiance says, “Oh… Amanda_Rae has that same bag and pattern except it is a lap top carrier” to which she responds, “Oh– I HATE that pattern.. it is my least favorite”
OKKKK… now I am not the vindictive, say-what-is-always-on-my-mind or confrontational type but REALLY woman? You’re still in your cut off spongebob flannel night pants and you’re trying to make me feel stupid over pattern choices!
I didn’t speak the rest of the time we were there… only to answer my Fiance if he asked me a question. He kept saying things in a joking manner trying to lighten the mood but the air was TENSE from then on. When we left she didn’t say a word to me ( and I didn’t say a word to her, either) and when we got in the truck I told Fiance… I am NOT going back to that woman’s house again! He says he will switch hair people if I want him to… which I am not THAT crazy over it, so if he wants to continue going to her then fine… but it just validated what I already thought… that she definitely does not like me and has no problem letting me know!
I should also add that we are very good friends with TWO of my FI’s exes… we have dinner with them regularly and will be attending one of their weddings next month, so it is definitely not like I am giving off controlling/jealous vibes! This may sound arrogant but I generally get along pretty well with people and I typically get along very well with other women… it is was kind of shocking to me that someone decided within 2.5 seconds of meeting that I should be their new target for rude behavior.
I just needed to vent, this woman got me all worked up over nothing, maybe it just hurt my ego too much haha…and I know the whole thing it totally stupid 🙂