- Ms Sassy
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: January 2012
A friend of mine was discussing an engagement timeline with me. She knows that Boyfriend or Best Friend & I are going on a cruise on Monday and that I am hoping that this could be the moment. She goes on to tell me that she doesn’t think that it would be because there wasn’t enough time. I asked her “time for what?” and she said for him to buy a ring. EVERYONE!! knows that I do not want an engagement ring or a wedding ring. I am not into jewerley AT ALL. I want nothing to do with rings, diamonds, anything and she knows this, we have been best friends for over 10 years.
She said what we (BF & I) would have to do is “Go to a pawn shop, get a cheap ring for him to propose with. You have to have a ring, its what everyone does and its what everyone expects to see on your hand when you announce that you are engaged. Plus this will give him something to give you at the moment. You can try out this ring and if you like it, later buy a new one that you both can pick out later” I firmly said “NO!” This is not what I want,
I really don’t care that other people are “expecting to see a ring on my finger” because quite honestly…they are not. I can’t explain why I don’t like them. I don’t like the feel of them, I personally don’t understand the “beauty” of them and for some people, they smell bc they don’t clean their hands. Right this moment my arms are breaking out in hives with just the thought of having a ring. I have to practically run by any of the jewerley stores in the mall.
I told her that I don’t understand why there has to be a ring. I said to her that he can just do the whole proposal but without giving me a ring. What is the difference between of getting engaged with a ring or without a ring. She has been researching ways on the internet on how to propose without a ring but she is having a hard time. I told her that I was fine with him just asking me. I named off a few ways that I thought were cute, but she shot them down and said that she wouldn’t pass them on to Boyfriend or Best Friend. I just want a way that when people ask how did he do it, I can have a cute story. He already asked me once before (in bed). I don’t think its appropriate for us to tell the story to our parents by saying “hey…we’re engaged, he asked me while doing it”….ya..NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GRR!! WTF! Her phone call just really really pissed me off. I just told her that I had to go. So I am hoping that sometime next week it will happen-hopefully without a ring! I mean I will be really disappointed if it doesn’t happen, but I won’t be shocked either. I’ve been waiting for awhile. I do know it will come, but I just want it to be on our terms and not be influenced by others-for which I know she will email him her “brillant” idea.
Thanks for listening hive and reading my long vent. Red splotches are starting to go away now.