(Closed) LONG Vent: Anyone afraid to try to lose weight??

posted 8 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
1325 posts
Bumble bee

Oh wow. There is a lot going on in your post. I would suggest a therapist. I don’t want that to come across meanly, but someone who has an hour to give you one-on-one attention sorting this stuff out would be helpful.

I say take some damn pressure of yourself! I understand what it’s like to have your body turn against you, believe me. I have Crohn’s, psoriasis and possible endometriosis. 

I understand hating you own body. I’ve often asked my body “Why are you trying to kill me!?”

Really though, throw your damn scale away. Those are just numbers. Rely on your health and how well you feel in order to mark whatever progress.

At this point of being so sickly, looks should be the last thing on your mind. I know, you still want to look great, but the thing is, you will. It’s pretty much a given that everyone in attendance is going to think you look radiant…. as long as you feel radiant. If you manage to make yourself thin or whatever but you feel like crap and are sick, it’s going to show.

Just focus on making yourself healthy and well mentally and physically. They go hand in hand. I say take it slow. This is one of those cases to consult a physician before starting an exercise regimen.

Post # 4
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’ve been through a lot with body dysmorphia and eating issues so I can relate.  It sounds like you definitely should get back in touch with a psychologist and/or a nutritionist because the wedding is a big trigger for you.  Eating disorders have a huge relapse rate, especially in the midst of life changes.

I know sometimes it’s hard to really internalize it, but your health is so much more important than your weight.  The truth is, most of us do not have the ability to both control our weight and be healthy – sure we can be fit and be towards the healthier end of our natural range, but there are a LOT of things that can complicate it.  You’ve run up against one of those things, and most people, including those who care about you, understand that.  The rare person who does not?  That is your problem and you do not have to conform to their image of what you might look like.

I think you’re right to be afraid of trying to lose weight – that’s something in you telling you that it’s so easy to fall into the same behaviors.  After what I’ve been through I refuse to try to intentionally lose weight again.  Eating healthy is fine, as long as I don’t obsess over it.  Exercise is fine, as long as I don’t do it when hurt or seriously ill.  But scales?  Diets?  Anything with the goal of overriding my body rather than assisting it in being healthy is a very bad idea.  It’s okay to be afraid of or resistant to bad ideas.

Definitely get in touch with a professional, both in terms of fighting these triggers before they cause you to relapse and also to make sure that you can attempt to get fit without getting unhealthy.

Post # 5
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

On most people a size 2 is pretty darn small. I have a feeling that even with you 40 new lbs you probably aren’t even overweight. I was a size 3 at 5’6″, gained 50lbs and am borderline healthy/overweight. But I understand every body is different. Maybe you just aren’t carrying the weight where you’d like to. I agree with the other girls: you should get support for your body anxiety. I couldn’t imagine being stressed like that all the time. I’d also suggest keeping your nutritionist as well as a workout regimen so that you are still eating properly, AND you can keep toned since I wonder if maybe that’d help your body image too? Maybe your SO can keep an eye on you to make sure that you stick to eating what you’re supposed to and he can provide love and encouragement, even for however you look now, because as I stated before, I really bet you still look great!

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