- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Ok so my sister is a bridesmaid, she’s 9 years older than me and has been in a few weddings before mine. She is very sweet, has a very good heart, has helped me out in some areas and is just driving me up a wall. I’ve been a pretty laid back bride and haven’t been stressed about much, just my sister.
To begin with, she has OCD. True, clinically diagnosed OCD. She was diagnosed when she was about 20 and won’t take meds for it. This is absolutely fine, I don’t believe that people need to be medicated if they’re willing to do therapy. She won’t do therapy either, she prefers the meds, then starts to feel better after taking them a bit and decides she doesn’t need them anymore. She acts fairly normal out in public but can’t act normal around our family. It ticks me off when I see her sit on a barstood at a nasty bar and then watch her bring her own chair to my parents house. You cannot give her a gift other than money or a gift card, she won’t touch it, won’t do anything with it. I hate that as a wedding gift I am going to be giving her a gift card. I offered to buy her an ipod shuffle, she said no but I could buy her an ipad though. I offered to buy her the accessories for my wedding, she said sounds great, let’s go to Zales and get diamonds. She is not this shallow or selfish or materialistic she just wants to make sure I know to only get her money or a gift card.
I took my Maid/Matron of Honor bridesmaid dress shopping and picked out a gorgeous dress. But then I started thinking I wanted a long dress for my bridesmaid and that dress was tea length. Also, it was plum, we decided on a spring wedding rather than fall so we decided to pick a new color. Sister made it clear she wasn’t wearing a long dress. So then I was thinking I wanted to do the watermelon or sangria color at David’s, she didn’t want any of the dresses at David’s and didn’t want anything pink. Finally I just got so fed up with her that I went with the original dress in a turquoise color. I looooooove the dress and was so glad I went with my gut and stuck with that dress. Now though the turquoise (closer to a tiffany blue)is too pale and just going to wash her out. OMG enough. When you get married I’ll wear whatever you want and not complain about it, just do me a favor and leave it all alone. And by the way, pretty sure my mom paid for the dress so it isn’t like she was “wasting her money” on it.
Now, it’s time for shoes. I want my girls in fuchsia shoes, it looks awesome, my Maid/Matron of Honor loves it and FI’s little sister (only other bridesmaid) loves it as well. “That’s going to look awful, what is wrong with you?” The lady at the dress shop made a nasty face, she doesn’t like it. I don’t care what that woman likes. She owns a dress shop in a small town and would probably be perfectly happy to have some of the same dresses in there that were in style 25 years ago. I couldn’t buy my dress from them because they refused to show me anything other than satin ballgowns even after I specifically said no satin. Anyway, I have sent her at least 75 pairs of fuchsia shoes online. She refuses to like any of them. It can’t have bows, it can’t have any adornemnt, it can’t have this, it can’t have that. She starts sending me shoes that are literally porn star shoes, suede platforms with gold studs, 6 inch heels. My sister can barely wear a 3-4 inch heels, so this is exactly what she’s doing with the gifts, telling me stuff that is so over the top. She then tells me she doesn’t spend over $30 on shoes, ok fine not unreasonable, if they’re $60 or $70 I’ll pay the difference, and my mom offered to pay as well so that I wouldn’t have to. So finally we find a shoe that we both like, this was about a month ago, it’s out of stock in her size. I bring it up to her today because we’re now less than 8 weeks away, fortunately I’m a “zappos VIP” so I can get stuff shipped free overnight but any other website could take 2 weeks. She says “I found the shoes I want, they’re just out of stock, I have 2 more months for them to come back into stock”. Ok well have you found a backup that could work in case those shoes don’t come back in stock, they’re not on any website in any size other than an 11 so they might end up being discontinued. “2 months” Yes 2 months but I also know there’s the risk of you not getting shoes that match the rest of the wedding party and that’s going to royally tick me off. She wants silver shoes, this is the one thing I am dead set against, no silver shoes. Even the flower girls have fuchsia shoes. I am trying to plan a wedding 600 miles away, I am going for a certain look, it’s stressful considering I have never even seen my reception venue in person. Just do this one freakin thing for me!
I am not having issues with anyone else about anything else. Am I really being a bridezilla in this case?