- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
My Mother-In-Law ‘heard’ from someone that I went around bashing my (her) reception. That I was saying I hated it, and it looked terrible yaddayadda. (She wanted to decorate/do everything for it without me there or seeing it until after the wedding. I had been freaking out before the wedding because I wanted to help and it stressed me out to not be a part of it, but I only vented to my now-husband, sister and mom.) Well I liked how it turned out a lot, and I told husband and everyone else how much I loved and appreciated it. I have no idea who this mysterious source is, but now she’s mad at me.
Since we became engaged, GMIL, who raised husband, doesn’t seem very fond of me. I’ve noticed it a lot but tried to brush it off, but the other day husband brought it up to me when he brought up how Mother-In-Law is upset. He says whenever he mentions me to her she doesn’t say anything or gets all quiet or disapproving. He says it might be that he was like her last child, so she’s upset that I’m taking him away, but I don’t know.
Husband’s aunt is just plain rude- she insults me but always laughs it off (I’m pretty sure she’s referenced me and a street corner before). I never say/do anything to her! She makes fun of how I dress (because apparently it’s odd?) or if I see her while in my pajamas (we’ve had to go over there late at night, on short notice).
Basically I feel like crap. It seemed like they all liked me until we got engaged. Since then it’s been a huge battle. They make me feel inferior and not good enough; I started crying the other day because I feel so disliked. The worst thing is, there’s nothing I can do. They don’t even treat husband very well, but they do treat him like family. We’re kind of like the ‘black sheeps’ now. And I know that when I have a baby, it’ll get the same treatment.
None of his family thought we would go through with the marriage. They were happy when we were dating, concerned when we were engaged, and when we set a date they were fully against it. About two weeks before the wedding, when we had most of everything set up, they started offering help because they knew we weren’t backing out. I appreciate the help they gave, but they were also very criticizing- “you can’t do it that way” “you don’t have this done yet?” and took over. Of course I don’t have that done yet, I’ve been doing everything on my own!
I just don’t know what to do. On the bright side, GFIL still seems to like me the same, and welcomed me into the family.
Sorry for the vent, but I had to get it out.