(Closed) Long weekend weddings?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Are long weekend weddings ok?
    No thanks, do it the week after : (20 votes)
    31 %
    Sure, lets party : (16 votes)
    25 %
    depends on weekend : (28 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 2
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    A long weekend that includes Thanksgiving is very different than a long weekend with Columbus Day. It really depends on the distance, the holiday, family traditions, budgte, ect…

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Our wedding is on the Columbus Day Sunday.  All the benefits of a three-day weekend (although unfortunately not acknowledged by every state) with none of the annoyance of disrupting any long-cherished holiday traditions.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

    alanajar:  we’re getting married on a long weekend. 

    Our Anniversary falls on the Sunday so we’re having the wedding then and people still have the Monday to recover 🙂

    Nobody seems to mind 🙂

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    alanajar:  we got married on the Sunday of Memorial Day Weekend. I was fully aware and fine that people might miss it due to plans they already had, but most people ended up coming so it was great. I did get a little crap this year when we were at our usual Memorial Weekend lake trip where people were introducing us as “the reason we didn’t do Memorial Day at the lake last year!” but it was all in good fun (hopefully ). I would not have done it on a holiday like Easter, which is religious, or Thanksgiving which is way more family oriented. 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee

    i have no problems with a holiday summer weekend (memorial day; fourth of july; labor day) wedding, as long as i know about it enough in advance to not have something else planned. i think the only real risk you run is that some people might already have plans by the time they find out about your wedding, or else having standing yearly get togethers (some families might have an annual memoral day weekend reunion, for example) that mean they’re unavailable. i don’t have any standing yearly plans, but i do wind up planning my holiday weekends well in advance – so the earlier you get those save the dates out, the better.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I think it’s a great idea if it’s over a long weekend that maybe doesn’t hold toom many traditions.  It allows people to travel and relax more around your day without the stress of work.  Some venues may be cheaper too!  Of course every family and sitiuation is different but a problem I considered when I decided NOT to have my wedding on a holiday weekend was that for our anniversaries if we ever wanted to get away for a weekend to celebrate we wouldn’t because of family and other obligations.  It really does depend on what works best for you though, it’s your day 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee

    Wedding on a long weekend like, labor day, memorial day, columbus day, presidents day, MLK day, totally fine.

    Wedding over a major holiday weekend (christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter) no thank you. Too much family stuff going on and with kids it’s even more hectic.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee

    My Brother-In-Law and SIL got married on Labor Day weekend a few years ago. The flights, car rental, and hotel prices were much higher, and we were required to pay for three nights, even though we only stayed for two. There’s that to think about at least. 

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee

    Went to a Thanksgiving wedding (albeit Canadian Thanksgiving: I don’t know anyone who gets on a flight for that while I do know Americans who have/would for theirs-personal observation) and it was such a hastle, I wouldn’t have bothered other than that it was SOs immediate family. I think on a less family oriented long weekend it would be alright, but be prepared for some people not being able to make it.

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    My opinion seems to differ from most above, but it is consistent with most people I know.  Most friends and people in my circle really really do not like weddings on long weekends especially the summer ones. For most of us, we might not be able to take a longer vacation time during the summer, and therefore, we try to take full advantage of our long weekends to go camping or to the lake or whatever. Having your wedding on a long weekend takes away few mini vacation opportunities. If I need to travel to your wedding, I would rather fly there on Friday after work and then come home on Sunday and keep my long weekend free to go camping. 

     

    But….this could be a “know your people thing.” I think it partly depends on where your wedding will be. If its a place I might want to visit anyways, then it’s much less of an issue. 

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee

    chocochai:  Same here with my group of friends. If I have a three-day weekend, I want to use it to relax, go to the river, or take a mini trip! I’m OK with weddings being on a regular weekend… and then I get to decide if I want to take a Friday off.

    I will say though, that I appreciate weddings that are later in the evening on Saturday because then I can fly out or drive Saturday during the morning or afternoon. If you have an early Saturday wedding (like before 2pm) it’s hard for out of towner to do anything other than take that Friday to get there!

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON

    We got married on a Saturday during the August civic long weekend.  We told everyone early and had a great turn out.  It was also good for relatives travelling from out of town.  We have been married for almost 8 years now and sometimes our anniversary falls on the civic long weekend and I love it because we usually go away for a few days to celebrate our anniversary or at least go to a nice dinner. 

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    Being from Indiana summer 3 day weekends especially memorial day since for us that is race weekend and for many of us that weekend holds just as much significance in our family traditions as holidays like Thanksgiving I’d say go for Columbus day if your taking someone’s three day weekend away.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    I have a wedding to go to tomorrow and although im going, I would have rathered gone away for the fourth of july weekend. The person is important to us so we are making sure to be there, but given the option I would prefer a different weekend.

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