- 6 years ago
I really adore the website and I’ve been reading it for a long time. I think, this blog is just awesome))) responds I’ve read sound so touchy, sincere and helpful and sweeet) I’ve read thousands of related to my situation articles here….but you know, each relationship is unique and has some peculiarities. So, here is my story)
I’m 25, my Boyfriend or Best Friend is 27 and we’ve been together for 1.5 year (but first six months pure flirt, sms, calls, light kisses), living together for 6 months. The thing is, our relationship has been absolutely perfect and easy from the very beginning and everything has come naturally. From the very first day we’ve been discussing openly everything from faith to politics, from family to work issues. I’ve never felt ashamed to eat in front of him, or take a shower together, we’ve always felt comfortable about money issues, spending free time, having vacations, etc. Short after a week of actually dating we went to the Sea together for a week and it was awesome…
Then we started dating more often, then weekends- together and day by day our love was getting stronger…we became inseparable and moved in.
Butttttttt!!!!!!! The thing is, I feel I’m the one, who provokes and stimulates him. Each time, I feel, I’m ready for the next level, I push him slightly and it happens. Every step in our relationship is just like that. He is always very enthusiastic about it than (usually much more enthusiastic, than me)))), he always knows a better way to perform). He just wouldn’t take on the responsibility to start anything (sometimes, I think, coz he’s got an elder sister, who’s really a woman of character)
He is not a commitment phobic, I know tha for sure, he speaks about family with me, how important for him it is, we had a lot of talks about our plans for future together, kids-talks (hypothetically), he feels okay, discussing obsolete wedding traditions and the way he sees a cool way to celebrate it))) but we never actually spoke about OUR engagement(
I left my blogs open (“just by chance”), and I know he read them, so he is well-informed about my wish to get married. Every time he presents me those little nice boxes I think it’s a riiiiiiing!!!!!!!!!! but…I get all the jewelry exept it((
Last month we went to the Sea to celebrate our anniversary)) The same city, the same hotel, the same restaurant as last year….we thought it would be romantic. But, we met our friends there and it turned out a great party- no chances for all that romantic staff…
I feel horrible, I can’t pretend anymore that everything is okay! Should I be the one to take a step AGAIN??? And what’s a nice and soft way to start this tricky conversation….I’m a romantic and would like my ring as a surprise….
Please, I’d be happy to get your opinions)