Post # 1
Yesterday at work I was told that I “look so young”. Of course I was flattered. She told me I look 33-35 years old when I actually just turned 45 last month! I do have some gray hairs and I don’t dye my hair. I’ll certainly take the compliment, but I had already been thinking I sure do feel older. I’m exhausted when I get home from work which is a less stressful job than what I had 15 years ago! I look at all those cute heels I have in the closet and I really do want to wear them, but comfortable shoes seem to make so much more sense to me now. lol! I’ve noticed that things are going south on my body and let’s even begin to talk about how now it seems absoulutely impossible to lose 1 ounce. Let alone 5 lbs! None of my old tricks work anymore! : (
So my questions are:
Do you think you’re looking older? (wrinkles, splotches, gray hair, etc.)
Do you feel older? (aches, pains, tired, etc.)
And… if you have any tips, suggestions, remedies, etc. PLEASE share!
Post # 3
Of course I am looking older – damn it, I earned these greys and will hide them with pride. Soon, Mr. Botox and I will be on first names basis.
Of course I feel older – is that part of my body supposed to hurt like that when I stand up? Wasn’t that horse alot shorter last month?
Tips- LIVE IT LIKE YOU LOVE IT. Who gives a rats wrinkle what you think other think about you, all they are really seeing is your phenominally great attitude drawing them in to your radiant personallity. If you are happy that is all that matters!
Trust me! 40 and LOVING IT!!!!!
Post # 4
I am 31 and I am having a hard time NOT being the hot 20 something girl. Turning 30 did not bother me at all but I feel a bit old at 31. I still feel attractive but I am a more mature version of myself. I looooovvvvveee me but its still an adjustment.
Post # 5
Oh, and a good hot chiropracter works wonders too.
Post # 6
Well, I have to say I think you are lucky. I have never been told that I look younger. In fact I’m thinking of lying up…“How old are you? 60! Wow you look 45!!! hehehe
Do I think I’m looking older…Yes 🙁 I started going gray at age 16! I am 42 now and have a ton of gray that I dye every 3 weeks! I do get botox when I can afford it and my neck looks like the neck of a 60yr old! *sigh*
In my early to mid 30s I looked better than most 20 somthings. I had a body like Demi Moore in Charlies Angles and could eat anything I pleased. In the last 8 years I have put on 60 pounds. (I am now on a diet and have lost 15 pounds so far so hopefully the weight problem will end soon.)
Do I feel older? Yes. Things hurt that never did before. Plus I would love to have one more baby but I know that ain’t happening.
I don’t have any tips (sorry) but I will be following this thread to see if anyone else does.
I wish I had a better attitude about aging but I don’t sorry. I’m getting married for the first time at 42 which of coarse I am thrilled about but can’t help but feel a little down when planning it and people realize “oh, It’s your wedding?” ugg!
By The Way what’s up with peeing a little when you sneeze? Tell me I’m not alone in this.
Post # 7
@luvmyDwight: LOL, By The Way what’s up with peeing a little when you sneeze?
What the begeezes is that? Guys don’t have that! We go throught the pain of childbirth and nature sneeks up on you somewhere down the road and throws one more curve ball in as if we haven’t punished our bodies enough.
Post # 8
I have been told that I look 28-33 which since I am turning 43 this month is nice but when I was younger nobody could tell what age I was either – I really have changed some but not as much as a lot of my friends. I am not trying to brag and I hesitated to post this but you did ask for some advice. My advice, stay current, stay active and try lots of new things. So it does not hurt to still enjoy music from the ’80s but find current music you like too, go to new places, try new food, etc. Do not dress like a teenager but do look like a stylish grownup. Exercise or be active – eat healthy. The majority of it is attitude. My kids friends all see me as the cool mom but I do not try to be cool and I do not hang out with them or try and be like a teeny bopper. But I do realize there is a lot between teenager and old and am trying to just enjoy being an adult without getting bogged down in it – not sure if that makes sense? It is so easy to get caught up in the responsibilities of adulthood and parenthood that we forget to live life.
Let go and enjoy and the years will start to fall away.
Post # 9
I’m turning 43 soon and although people think I’m younger, I can start to really feel changes.
The biggest thing I notice is that I limp for about 5 steps if I’ve been sitting down awhile…
My hair is thinner and is getting grey spots…my skin is splotchy…and I’ve been dieting for a month and only lost 4 lbs…when I could usually lose 4 lbs. per week!!
Last week I had three people tell me my hair was awful and it’s been a long time since I received a compliment…so yesterday I went downtown and had my hair highlighted and styled…then I had my eyebrows done… I dressed up and wore more make-up and perfume. I feel BETTER.
It’s like every few months I have to “check” myself and make the changes so I don’t get left behind in life. I think it’s important to make time to dress up and pamper yourself.
Post # 10
@luvmyDwight: Not to thread jack, just wanted to pop in to say that you look very similar to one of my good friends/bridesmaids, and when I see your pic I think of her (and she’s 26, so go you!). So now you can no longer say no one here hasn’t called you younger, ’cause I totally think of you as 26. 🙂
Post # 11
It is so great to know that I’m not alone in my thoughts regarding aging. : )
@Soladylike: 30 hit me REALLY hard psychologically. Before I turned 30 that age seemed so old to me. I guess I thought it was the official end of my youth. Silly me! 40 was no problem at all nor 45 – psychologically. However, I’m really noticing the aches and pains and the effects of gravity at 45.
@luvmyDwight: That’s a good plan! I don’t pee when I sneeze but when I laugh really, really, hard the same thing happens to me. I remember that happening to Amy on an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond.
@unixfairy: I agree with keeping current. But it is HARD for me to like the current music. : )
@SandyDollHair: I have to check myself every now and then too. I just bought some new clothes, I looking for a new fragrance and I’m thinking of changing my hair. I’m like you. When I feel beautiful, I feel better.
Now… where are those tips on losing, maintaining your weight? I count calories like a mad woman. I only want to lose 5. It is sooooooooo hard to lose just 1!
Post # 12
Stop counting calories and stop eating ‘white’ foods for awhile (like bread,pasta,rice,potatoes). The weight will come off within a few weeks, and with only 5 lbs. to lose probably much quicker.
My Mom always said her best years were in her 40’s, but I didn’t feel that way. I was a whiz at work, but the first five minutes in the door I pulled my bra off through my sleeve, kicked my shoes off and laid out flat on the floor for an hour.
Then the hot flashes begin in earnest, so you get no sleep and are pretty miserable when they hit while you’re working too. Everyone else is freezing and you’re hot as an oven. Fun times, especially when they last for 12 years.
Wait until the facial hair starts growing and showing…you ladies haven’t seen anything yet! 😛
Post # 13
@ItWasntMe: That’s good advice! Thanks.
I pull my bra off through my sleeve too! Sometimes I don’t wait until I get home. Sometimes it happens in the car on the way home!