Looking at rings, advice

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
10282 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Just be honest with him that what you want (I actually would leave budget out of it) is a smaller diamond. And isn’t getting what you want, getting what you deserve?

Point out to him that when you say you want a smaller diamond and he says he wants to get you what you deserve, what he’s talking about is societal expectations and judgements from others that don’t actually have anything to do with you and making you happy.

Post # 4
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

When we were looking at rings, FH told me that he only needed to like the ring, I was the one who needed to love it. It’s your hand, so you’re the tie breaker by default.

Check out some of the cluster rings on Etsy. Maybe you’ll both like the styles that have a smaller center stone and a little spray of tiny stones. 

Have you considered moissanite? It’s a great budget friendly option. 

Your hands are small, anything is going to look big on you. Remember that, too!

Post # 9
1571 posts
Bumble bee
Post # 11
221 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would also recommend pawn shops, and Instagram vintage/antique sellers. Make an offer and/or ask if they can do layaways and break the payments up over a couple of months. Maybe not ideal when you want the ring now, but might help stretch your budget. Here is a picture of my vintage/antique diamond rings. Top picture are all between .25-.33ct (estimate, as it’s hard to tell with diamonds with taller crowns as they face up smaller than modern diamonds the same carat weight; these are all at least 4mm or more). The middle ring and ring on the right are size 4.5, the ring on the left is 5.25. Middle ring (and rose gold ring in second photo) is OMC, the other two I believe are OEC. Middle ring was an Etsy find, other three solitaires between the 2 photos were pawn shop finds, all under $300 a piece, all 14k gold. Good luck!


Post # 13
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - River Museum & Aquarium

I second the pawn shop idea. I got a lovely .65 for less than half the cost of retail. Also, consider mom and pop jewelry stores that have “estate” jewelry. Those are usually less expensive and you might find and old cut there. 

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