Post # 1
When you and your fiance were looking at venues, who went with you? If you brought your parents/FIL’s was it because they were paying or contributing?
I kind of want it to just be he and I, but I know his mother wants to come. I don’t know, I just feel like it will ruin the surprise of it all.
Post # 3
I think if you and your Fiance can go together by yourselves that would be fine. Just say that this is something you really want to choose together on your own. I don’t see an issue with that, even if someone else is helping to pay for it, as long as it’s in budget then I think making the decision yourselves is okay.
I went looking at venues with my dad, because it was back at my hometown, and Darling Husband was unable to go with me at the time. We took pictures of the different places we saw, and I was able to show them to Darling Husband for us to discuss later. Even though my dad went with me, and my parents contributed a chunk of $$$ towards the venue/catering, the final say was ultimately up to Darling Husband and me.
Post # 4
My Fiance and my parents went venue shopping with me. Fiance left it up to me whether my parents would come or not, but ultimately the budget is up to them so I thought they should have a big say in everything. It went great – luckily we all agreed on everything, and my parents were happy with the cost. I’m also super indecisive so it helped having more people agree that the venue was perfect. Though I think if we were paying for everything ourselves, we wouldn’t have brought anyone.
Post # 5
My mom came to one and FI’s mom came to one. We wanted them to come because we wanted second opinions. And FI’s mom thinks of things that I would never think to ask. Sometimes it’s good to have other people with you there for that reason.
Post # 6
My parents went with me, but that was because I was on my own at first and valued their opinion.
Post # 7
my Fi and Mum came with me. Only because i relly value the opinion of my mum.. she is contributing, but thats not why she came.. i think its who you want.. but my mum is involved in helping me plan.. yes im a mummies girl..
Post # 8
Just my Fiance and I went. My parents live out of town. But, next time they’re in town, I’ll probably take them to see it.
Post # 9
Fiance and I always knew which venue we wanted, so I just went by myself to book it.
Post # 10
I went with my Fiance and my parents. We went with my parents because a) I really value their opinion and b) they are paying for it! The end decision was up to Fiance and me, but I was really glad to have my parents with us and to have their input.
Is your Future Mother-In-Law helping pay for the venue? If my Future In-Laws lived closer I would have invited them along too. After all, their son is getting married and I want them to be involved where they can. I guess I just don’t understand what you mean when you say it will ruin the surprise? What surprise??