Post # 1
For all you waiting ladies who think he may be asking the big question soon, is anyone else looking anxiously at their outlook calendar over and over again?
What dates are you suspicious of? What dates can you throw out?
I’ll go first. We went to a wedding this weekend so I knew it wasn’t going to happen. He’s strongly hinted it will be by Thanksgiving, and this was the last weekend where I knew not to expect it.
I do not think it will be a weekday because it’s hard for either of us to get away from work. I am most supsicious of Nov 3/4 and Nov 10/11 because we have little mini trips planned to the TX Hill Country. But really it could be any day now and it’s making me so antsy! Exactly 1 month until Thanksgiving!
Post # 3
Yeah, I keep looking at the calendar because we have so much going on. We’re moving out-of-state in two weeks, and getting engaged sometime between this week (when the ring comes) and our move, so I’m pretty stressed out. I thought it would happen in late November, and now I have absolutely no idea when he’ll actually propose. Maybe this weekend? I have no idea.
Post # 4
I am trying not to do this but of course I do it anyways. I know it is going to happen before thanksgiving. I thought maybe next weekend…but were going on a last minute trip with his family so I highly doubt it then. The weekend after that he is accompanying me on a business trip for my job, I doubt that as well because I will be in and out of meetings. So it could be the weekend of the 9th or the 16th. But truly I have no idea at this point.
Post # 5
SO told me weeks ago that a proposal is coming before Thanksgiving, so I’ve been trying to remain calm about things. We’re doing lunch with our moms on 11/2, so that’s the date that I’ve been obsessing about.
Post # 7
All I do it look at the calendar!
My SO is having surgery on Halloween…. and he made a slip post on facebook about proposing at the end of the month…..
I think he was planning on doing it before his surgery but now I have a feeling he is putting it off till after his surgery… and I know he won’t be able to do much for a while after surgery, so it is looking like a few more weeks 🙁
not happy about it, the idea of going to the hospital as his girlfriend… is killing me.
Post # 8
He said it’d be this month, because we love this month so much.
He *said* he was gonna do it 10/11/12 but didn’t at the last moment b/c he felt it “wasn’t the right moment, afterall”. In telling me this (on 10/12/12 – b/c I freaked out over how he was gonna do it this month since he didn’t even have a ring and he’s been saying for years that the proposal was coming), he explained, “I don’t need a ring – we have the one your mom gave us and we agreed in ’09 that we’d design matching rings, so we can use hers until ours come in!” ❤❤❤
On the days following 10/11/12, I did not make plans for us and left him a wide berth to suggest an outing: “Hey, whatcha wanna do tonight?”. He never took the bait (he’s always had trouble being assertive, even as a child), and on Sunday night, when he said he was hungry and I asked what he wanted to eat, he said he wasn’t in the mood for anything in particular, So I said I’d throw something together and his face fell as he said “ok…”
He also said he wants to be outside and just the two of us but I wondered if that was just to throw me off. We both have a background in being center stage and don’t mind the spotlight, so I theorized he might do it this past weekend at my kids’ joint bday party which my family attended (but his did not – but he’s weird about his family, so that may or may not have mattered to him). Since I’m posting here, it’s obvious that he didn’t do it then.
Looking at our calendar, I don’t see many opportunities for him to get that ‘right moment’ feeling on his own. I see that my kids are gone to their dad’s this weekend so it seems like this is kinda the last real chance to get it done in time. I also intuit that “the right moment” does not include us rushing off to somewhere so that rules out Wed, Friday and Sunday nights. Kids are back Tuesday.
Ugh! I’m gonna have to make this happen.
Unless … lastnight, I was plotting our calendar for the weekend and for Thursday we were discussing going to a party at a friend’s house and he suddenly announced we wouldn’t bother with that. So … perhaps that’s when he wants to do it??? eee! 9 days left … we’ll see!
Post # 9
@blinkingSTAR: I am so glad I’m not the only one thinking about it so much! My post was the MUCH abridged version of what is really going through my head right now. I’ve run him through our November commitments at least two dozen times, as in “hint, hint, here are your available days”. He knows that the second he tries to make plans in advance, I will see it coming a mile away, because he is NOT the planner in the relationship.
@Meant2Bee: @cyclingchick: Yeah for pre-Thanksgiving proposals!
Post # 10
I’ve been trying not to think too much about which dates and stuff because if it doesn’t happen it will drive me batty and I will be really disappointed. We are going on a trip to Vegas early November which might be a possibility but don’t really think that it will happen that soon. He’s too secretive so honestly I probably would never suspect it when it does happen. But that being said I really do hope by the end of the year but no clue when it could be during that time.
Post # 11
Ha…being in an LDR I keep wondering “which trip will it be?” Thanksgiving? Christmas??? I promise to do my best as a waiting bee not to let my anticipation obscure all the fun I wanna have!
Post # 12
I am both looking forward to and dreading the period of the 9th of February 2013 and the 17th of February 2013 – the days of our Las Vegas trip
I’m looking forward to it because: Yay!! That’s when he said that that he’ll be proposing!!
I’m dreading it because: I’m supposed to have had two dissertation chapters done by then and the trip itself may not happen because we’re going with another couple and the girl’s chances of getting a tourist visa to the US is slim at best.