(Closed) Looking Back Now, Was It Worth It? For 1 Day?

posted 6 years ago in Recaps
Post # 47
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692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Hrm, yes and no.  It was the happiest day of my life, for sure, and I loved having so many loved ones around me to share it with moreso than I thought I would.  However, I suspected going in that some parts of my family were going to be selfish and make some things a little painful, and they 100% delivered, and sometimes I wish I could go back and elope and not give them that chance.

But 6 months later, people are still raving about how awesome it was.  I guess I can throw a good party if I really want to! ๐Ÿ˜€

Post # 48
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1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It was for us.  But, we had lots of fun planning it, kept it small and simple and stuck to the budget (more or less).  I’d really recommend not spending a whole lot.  People still talk about how beautiful the location was (and want to plan a reunion trip there) — and the friggin’ awesome food!

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Our wedding really was gorgeous and we had a great time. But honestly the wedding was for everyone else, not us. All we wanted to do was get married and it would have been great to just elope and be able to say our vows in private. Although it was so special to say our vows and the most important part to us, it wasn’t the same saying them in front of everyone. It was too much pressure or something.

We spent so much money, there was so much stress. I had reached my goal weight 2 months before the wedding and from the stress I gained about 15 of it back right before the wedding. And I haven’t been able to get back into my healthy routine. I didn’t get any help on the day besides my wonderful husband. A wedding that was done specifically for my family was pointless because no one helped … we did it all on our own. 

Post # 50
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5659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

100% worth it. every last penny. I wish I could re live that day!

Post # 51
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3370 posts
Sugar bee

@fabange:  Nope, absolutely not worth it to me. Which is exactly why this time (second wedding for me) I am not doing all that. All I thought about from a few weeks after my wedding to this very day is what a waste of time and money it was and what else I could have done with that time and money. I would rather get married at the courthouse or in my backyard and save my money for things I actually need. More power to all the girls who “need” that big wedding, but for me, so not worth it.

Necessary disclaimer: No I don’t sit around thinking about it all day, every day. (I’ve already had someone basically tell me I’m ridiculous for still thinking about it) I mean, now, for instance, since you’re asking, I still think it was a waste.

Post # 52
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9095 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope. If I could do it all over again, I would not have had the wedding. Although our day (Almost a week in reality) after photos were stunning.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think it was worth it.

But mine was small, (50 adults, bout 10 kids) and i DIY’ed almost everything. Everything came together and it was just so lovely. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 54
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1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would have preferred to elope.  But that was my preference all along.  We had a wedding because my husband wanted one.  Having a wedding did not improve my overall opinion of weddings.

Post # 55
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503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Worth all of it!  It was a magical day full of love and family and friends and dancing.  I felt so incredibly blessed, and wouldn’t trade any of it for a minute.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 56
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159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Totally worth it but only because we had a wedding with 20 guests and got married at our home.  The whole thing cost very little, I married my best friend, and we had a wonderful time with those closest to us.  But I have to say that, for me, I’m not sure the whole dress stress thing was worth it for one day. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

At the end of the day we ended up enjoyed ourselves on the day (despite the rain and crap whether) but the amount of planning (1.5 years), stress and sleep deprivation, funding and  family issues was a lot. I really do think our wedding was very complicated (see wedding teaser trailer https://vimeo.com/69771152). 

We paid for our own wedding and it was expensive but we were prepared and had waited a long time to get married. Would I get married again under the same scenario? Probably but I would make a lot of changes. All of our family travelled from so far (Australia, UK, etc.) to New York for the wedding and I had hardly any time with them on the lead up. I wish we had structured things differently and perhaps had outsourced items that occupied all of our time up until the lead up. We were running around like crazy up until the last minute and I really wish it had not been that way. Did we enjoy the day no matter the outcome, yes. Would I do things differently or simplify – hell yes.  

It’s not until you have engaged your vendors and are committed, time flys that you start to wish that you had eloped or gone for a simpler affair. Problem is you are too far into it and cant back out (i.e., change your decisions on venue, vendors, approach, etc). Just wish we had more time. I know it sound ridiculous after planning for an entire year but we planned our own wedding and learned a lot in the process, made our own invites, menu cards, did our own design. Message is keep it simple.

 

Post # 58
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3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We had our original wedding planned for August 4, but we scrapped it all and eloped on May 3. Looking back on that? I’m sorry we didn’t do it sooner! 

Post # 59
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3823 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@fabange:  I didn’t go through the things you mentioned. Sure there were a couple of superficial stressful moments but nothing life changing. So I would say YES! The memories that were made and the love shared between all 70 of our guests and us was unmatched. 

Post # 60
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

YES! But we were lucky in that our families paid for ~80%, there was NO drama, and it was an absolutely magical 3 days. (We did have a TON of pain in the ass DIY stuff, but again, because all our friends and family are so awesome, it wasn’t too much of a headache.)

Post # 61
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926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

100% worth it. I only wish we could do it all again ๐Ÿ™‚

Yes, it was a lot of money and effort to spend on one day but I have never looked back and thought damn I wish I had the money over the beautiful memories.

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