Looking back…things that were 'weird'

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

TeachingBee2628 :  didn’t something like this happen in sex and the city? I think Miranda went on a date with a bloke and he chewed his steak but spat it out

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

TeachingBee2628 :  are you sure he didn’t have an eating disorder? Sounds very odd and concerning. Did he chew and spit/regurgitate his food often?

Either way good riddance and congrats on your amazing relationship.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

TeachingBee2628 :  well that’s just so nasty then. I would have left him for good right at that moment.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

TeachingBee2628 :  I just looked it up and it’s season 3 episode 14 lol

Post # 7
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Busy bee

TeachingBee2628 :  wow. I know a male that does this (at home) and yes, he has an eating disorder. 

I’ve never run into anything exceedingly “weird”.

Stuff about which I wish I had listened to my gut screaming at me to RUN:

-negging of any kind 

-criticizing my makeup and clothing choices 

-being on the phone constantly 

-unhealthily bound to their mother and/or rude to their mother 

-general insecurity 

-lovebombing 

-domination fantasies. (*i do believe these can be played out in healthy ways, but 98.8888% of men I’ve encountered that want a “sub” have been been deeply insecure -though they may appear confident – and have a strong desire for unhealthy control outside of the bedroom.)

 

ETA!! I thought of a weird one!! Yeeeeears ago I went on a couple of dates with a seemingly “normal” guy who casually dropped the fact that he was into stealing things. Like… would go into Target, buy multiple items and casually pocket a package of whitestrips. He enjoyed the rush. OMG. I could not believe my ears. And he was so nonchalant about it! PASS. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

My ex and I planned a holiday together after we’d been together for two years (in our mid-20s). It was to a place his family had happy memories of and he wanted to share it with me. 

Anyway, he called me a few months after we’d booked it, and said he’d mentioned to his Mom that we were going, and that she wanted to go.

The accommodation was small and I viewed it as a couples weekend (we were long distance so time together was precious). So I said, wouldn’t it be weird for there to be three of us? 

Then he said, no, she doesn’t want to come with us. She wants to go instead of you. I’ve already told her yes. We can go another time instead.

So he took his Mom on our holiday, without even discussing it with me beforehand. I was so angry, but clearly not angry enough because it took me another four years to break up with him after his Mom did a million other intrusive things. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

That is super weird and would have definitely been the last time I seen that guy if it was me! Does steak even bloat you? What an unhealthy attitude. 

I don’t know if I would link it to you paying though, that’s like someone getting pissy at you u because you can’t finish your meal because they paid for it.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Hello Bee! I don’t have anything to comment about the post but that’s really weird, just want to say hello to UAE bee, I don’t think there are many here 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

When I first started dating my ex, we were both pretty crazy about each other and I invited him to join me on a trip with my friends (only dated for 3 months at the time and first time meeting these friends of mine) During the trip he got mad at me in front of my friends because he apparently thought I was pointing out a pimple on his ear in front of my friends and was visibly upset which made it very awkward for my friends and confusing to me. He also got super impatient because my friends were a bit slow at the airport check point and got pissy at me / us because we cooked and he got tasked with washing the dishes (to be honest it’s not great to just get told that’s your job since everyone else cooked but at the same time he could’ve also showed he can be the bigger person?) 

anyway, so many red flags that showed that he was just a petty insecure person early on but I ignored it all lol…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

secondtimer18 :  Oh god I dated (and almost married) someone like this. It took me years to figure out that he would never share with his mother what we were doing or when we had plans—all so he could be available at her beck and call 24/7. I vividly remember him bailing on my birthday plans because she needed him to do something. 🙄

Same man also despised that I dared to have feelings, and if I tried to broach a subject his response was to threaten a breakup. My husband, in comparison, wants to know exactly what I’m feeling. He’s had to help me learn how to have tough conversations instead of having a fight-or-flight response.

Post # 15
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Newbee

This whole thread just made me chew and spit out my iphone. Ick!

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