(Closed) Looking Back, What Could You Have Done Without on Your Wedding Day?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 197
2889 posts
Sugar bee

I would have to say church flowers were a waste of money as they needed to be removed immediately following the ceremony and we didn’t wantot transport them to the reception due to distance and needing to then take them out of there at the nd of hte night so they just went home with an aunt who lived close to the church. I mean she enjoyed $400 worth of flowers for a week or so but I could have done without at the ceremony.

I skipped welcome bags and bathroom baskets and I don’t think anyone missed either. TBH, I planned to do bathroom baskets but then totally forgot to put them together in the week before hte wedding. 

I did a flip flop basket and that was very sucessful since our venue was on the beach. 

I skipped a video and I’m still not sure that i will ever miss it. I was kind of sad that no one made a good home video but I can’t imagine an occasion to watch it in the near future and assume DVD technology will be out of date by the time I have children who would be interested to watch it. So, the clips I have from guests seem sufficient.

Post # 198
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I like this thread because it makes me happy about my wedding:) I had an intimate wedding, didn’t spend too much and I’m glad I had everything I did. We paid 600 euros for a photographer that produces work worth much more than that…had such a small guest list that we could afford to have a fancy meal with great food, wine, cheese and dessert, I had a china dress (Kiss Bridal) and it was great and cheap. Everything was so good.

I uhh…wish someone had told me one of my earrings had fallen out during pictures, but then I found it myself and put it back in ha. 

Post # 199
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

For those of you trying to stretch your budget enough to include Video check out WeddingMix. They will send you 1, 3, or 5 cameras and edit the footage together for you. They have GREAT reviews (better than WedIt) and cost less than Wedit too. The customer service so far has been really excellent as well and with me that says a lot. We went with the 1 camera and iphone app package which is $199 and includes editing. The app only package doesn’t include an actual DVD only an online video which isn’t really clear from their price list. Overall, a great value!




Other things we “compromised” on were:




Fancy cake >> We did a small 6 inch cake for cutting and the rest cupcakes, saved a ton.




Chairs and Venue >> We are getting married at a county park and using their chairs.




Food >> Not really a compromise but definitely outside the box. We hired a food truck and it was WAY cheaper than traditional catering.




We somewhat splurged on:




The photographer. You cannot put a price on a great picture and you only get ONCE shot (pardon the pun).




The band. I just HAD to have a live band! Something deep inside me needed to have a fun party with a band or else it wouldn’t be the same.




Post # 200
43 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012
Post # 201
43 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@juicytray:  they were from micheal’s! dressed up with a stamp and ribbons.

Post # 202
899 posts
Busy bee

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@RiverBride13:  wedding mix looks cool. wedit was so expensive and you get nothing! thanks for sharing!

Post # 205
6 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

What a helpful thread!! I’m really rethinking some last-minute expenses now…

Post # 206
885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Honestly, the wedding is about YOU and YOUR HUSBAND, so spending only what you need to make the two of you happy should be the priority.   I literally spent a little over 3k in my wedding, and the only thing I wish I had spent more money on is photography.  I did have a photographer, but he was just a photo journalist who was not as familiar with wedding photography. 


If any of you want to save money, my suggestion would be cut your guest list significantly. 


Post # 207
83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My wedding hasn’t even happened yet and I already regret my favors. I started on them too soon and I should have taken more time to think about it before I took on the project. I imagine only half of them will be taken home/
Other things we decided to save on:

Expensive centerpieces – we are splitting the tables (half of them will have candle centerpieces, the rest flowers). This will actually lower our costs than if we were to have all flower centerpieces
Save the dates – no one really cares and by now, the people who are matter/are invited have already been given tons of notice. If anything we would do an email STD 
Expensive invitations (we caught an awesome groupon deal for Minted and we are going to have an email rsvp to save on postage. We are only mailing a handful of invites for the out of town guests, we and our parents will pass out the rest)Extravagant/excessive décor – no table runners or fancy linens on guest tables, a nice but simple backdrop for the head table; I decided to skip draping along the venue ceiling’s wooden beams ($500 for 2 no thanks)
A cake – we’re having a dessert buffet anyways and if anything, I will make the cake myself
Expensive flowers – we’re not getting married in a church and so we won’t spend the extra on flower décor. We also shopped around a lot and I decided it wasn’t worth it to pay top dollar for fancy flowers. No one cares
Wedding programs – we will probably write it on a chalkboard or something. No need for every guest to have one
Guestbook – I found my parents’ wedding guestbook from ages ago and all but 5 pages were blank. What a waste! We may go with the fingerprint guestbook route, there are a few nice prints on Etsy.
Wedding veil – I may forgo this altogether but I may consider making one. As pretty as they are I just can’t justify spending that much on something I will only wear for a couple hours
Videography – we originally considered it but decided we’d probably only watch it a couple times after the wedding. Not worth $1000s for us, we’d rather put it towards the food and photography instead.

Things I hope will be worth the splurge:

– I love my photographers and I was willing to pay for it. They were actually on par, if not slightly less expensive than a lot of wedding photographers in our city, but still a lot of money nonetheless. Let’s hope it will be worth it!
The appetizers – we’re having cocktail hour between the ceremony and reception to tie guests over while the wedding party and family are taking photos. I just hope I get to eat some of it!
Makeup artist – she wasn’t exactly a splurge but makeup/hair was one of the top things I struggled with in justifying the price. I went over my original budget but I decided it will be worth it if she can make me and my bridesmaids look awesome. And after shopping around for months and looking at portfolios and pricing, I decided that for the most part, you get what you pay for.
Dress – I tried to be conservative with my dress budget but I eventually said to heck with it and went slightly over budget. I feel guilty about it sometimes but I figure I’m only doing this once! bahahah :p


Post # 208
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Super helpful thread! 🙂

Makes me think/question a couple things:

To those that did (and were happy they did) a photobooth – was this a faux-to booth or you actually rented one everyone squeezes into? I love the idea, but hate the idea of a classic photobooth and would rather put up a backdrop and more space for guests in the pics 🙂

Cake! I can’t believe so many people wish they hadn’t splurged on it. Definitely going to consider this one as I work through my plans/budget! The idea of more desserts offered by the venue sounds like a better idea now that I think of it.

Still debating programs for our catholic ceremony… have to figure out how many are of different religion first lol

Also: We are putting a large % into photo/videographers and I KNOW it’ll be worth it, even though some people say they never look at their video, at least we’ll have it!

Post # 209
88 posts
Worker bee

commenting so i can follow 🙂

Post # 210
2597 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@TaurianDoll:  Favors.  Nobody cared and lots of people didn’t even take them!

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