(Closed) Looking Back, What Could You Have Done Without on Your Wedding Day?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 212
21 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

commenting to follow!!

Post # 213
38 posts
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have only just got married and I made a LOT of stuff myself, including invitations, programs, menus, signs, favours, bathroom baskets, table names, table plan, welcome bags, flip flot baskets … and so much more. It was very very time intensive but i enjoyed the process and I had so many people tell me that they loved all the little touches i put into the wedding.

What went down well

Toilet basket – i had lots of comments on the toilet baskets. People loved that but i dont think they are common in the UK so no one had seen them before.

Flip flop basket – all of them went pretty much. I had about 3 pairs left out of about 40. They could have been left out to be honest though but they were cheap and really pretty. I got wedge ones and i saw lots of people wearing them.

Kids packs – i put a lot of time and effort into these and the parents loved them (and the kids too!). I included an activity booklet that i tailored to each child (ie i knew one girl loved Disney so i had that as a theme). I put in crayons, toys, bubbles. It went down well but it took so so long to make personal booklets. I wouldn’t do that again!

Welcome bags – in these i put 2 bottles of water, some headache tables, chocolate, crisps (ie chips in American!), mints and tissues. These went down SO WELL. I literally had everyone tell me these were amazing.

What i wouldnt bother with again – i would not buy was disposable cameras. I put one on each table and put a sign telling people to take pictures of the guests at their table. The cameras were either half used, had no flash on (so pics didnt turn out) or were generally really bad pictures. I think i got maybe 5 that i liked! Cost so much to put the pictures onto disks and was a waste of money.

Straws – i bought paper straws that matched my colours – complete waste of money. I don’t think anyone noticed them and i dont have a picture of them either.


TIPS –  i just wanted to include a couple of tips that i wish i had done.  I forgot to give the photographer a list of family and friend pics and we missed out a lot.  Also, i bought giant round balloons and we forgot to take pictures with them ๐Ÿ™  also, we had a balcany at my venue and i wanted a picture on the balcany but i forgot so make a list of must have pics!!!!

DRINK LOTS OF WATER – i was given so many drinks (alcoholic) that i ended up getting a llittle tipsy at the end of the night.  I still made it until 2am but everyone else was up until 5am! i wish i had managed to stay up so make sure if you do drink, you follow every drink with water. 

Post # 215
304 posts
Helper bee

watching this one, keep the great advice coming ladies!  ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 216
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My wedding hasn’t even happened yet but I wish so bad that we had not done save-the-dates.  I was too excited to share our news & it ended up making the guest list enormous.

Post # 217
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

bumping! want to hear more wonderful opinions ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 219
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I could have done without the favor boxes that I overspent on.  People didn’t take them home, they just ate the favors out of them LOL.  I still have the extra boxes though so I can use them for something else in the future. 

Also a few thiings I could have gone without but don’t regret: programs, menu cards, mocktail hour snacks, mini candy buffet.

I wish I had not put so much planning into music selection and speeches and picture lists… I just let things flow day off and it was the best thing ever.  More relaxed. 

Post # 220
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Great advice, commenting to follow closer to my wedding!

Post # 221
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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Post # 222
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@10plus:  I know you cringe over the wedding officiant, but I burst into laughter about the lawfully wedded husband, and your man saying no, hahaha! It really does make for a great story! 


Post # 223
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ok, I am only halfway through this thread, and I see that it is up to each individual what they choose to skimp on. It appears that it is based on what is important to us. Thanks so much for creating and responding to this thread ladies! I have decided to skimp on most things. I will do save the dates if I can get them for free. I found a site that always has sales on invitations when I am ready to do that. I am only going to do some very cheap mini candles as decorations for tables. There probably will be a DJ, they do provide light background music, but I really love to dance. There will not be a limo, liquor (except maybe for the groom and I) favors, bathroom baskets, or welcome bags. I will have something I saw on another thread, an “oh sh*t kit” which is sort of a mini bathroom basket in a bag, available if need be. I will only have a small, cheap, and delicious wedding cake to cut for pics and to eat (the rest of it will be taken home). The venue includes a variety of dessert. I am keeping it EXTRA simple! I will do my own hair and I will probably have my Maid/Matron of Honor do my makeup. I will be using fake flowers (easy to use, are cheap, and easy to keep). I will get some fun little trinkets for the few kids that will be at the wedding from the dollar store and/or five and below to keep them busy. I may do a unity candle. I will have a photographer, but if I cannot afford a videographer I will purchase a camcorder and stand it upon its own, or have a guest hold it, or if all else fails tell folks to bring their smartphones and record the ceremony. I have not been to a lot of weddings, but I am certain no one remembers the little extras or even the big extras for that matter. Folks come to see the happy couple and enjoy some food!


Post # 224
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Kentucky Center for the Performing Arts

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@Brooklyn55:  Reading some of these posts I almost said forget the wedding programs.  i don’t want to spend hundreds for soemthing that nobody will keep.  However, I will probably use a DIY kit. Great idea to save money. I will be visitng Michaels soon for these.  Didn’t realize that Staples would print them for you.

Post # 225
547 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@subola:  Would you mind sharing your videographer’s name and contact info? I’m desparately searching for a videographer in that price range from NY! You can PM me, if you’d like =)

Post # 226
1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m pretty lucky, because my partner and I nixed all the ideas for wedding stuff that we didn’t think was essential, so we don’t have too many regrets on overspending. There’s a lot that we’re happy about, though!


  • Veil – I didn’t really want one, but my Mother-In-Law insisted. I don’t particularly like having it in all my photos, plus it got really uncomfortable. Still, at least my hairdresser understood I didn’t want it, so made sure it didn’t cover up my hair!
  • Invitations – I wish we had shopped around a little more for the invitations. Ours ended up being beautiful, but fairly expensive for something that ends up in the bin

Glad we did

  • Food – do NOT skimp on the food. Even if you’re just serving cake and punch, make sure everyone walks away saying “That was the best damn cake and punch I’ve ever had!”
  • Alcohol – So many of our guests really appreciated the open bar. We also had the bar open before the ceremony and everyone loved being able to watch the ceremony with a beer in their hands
  • Mismatched bridesmaids – SO easy to organise (“Just show up in purple, guys!”), as well as being cheap and easy on them. Looked great, too!
  • Kids – Kids at the wedding were great. Not only were they all well behaved, but they were loads of fun and even helped get my husband on the dance floor when he didn’t wanted
  • Cheap decorations – We got married under a homemade arch with some lace curtains over it. It looked amazing and probably cost about $20. We also just decorated with some borrowed party lights, flowers from the garden, and paper lanterns, so the total cost of all decorations would have been less than $150

Wish we had

  • Videographer – The day flew past so quickly, we can barely remember what happened! Even just a friend with a cheap video camera would have been great.
  • Paid for groomsmen suit hire – we were originally going to, then bought a house as well, so my partner asked them to pay for their own suits (not too expensive), but we could have afforded to pay for them, and I feel guilty that we didn’t

Glad we didn’t

  • Wedding lingerie – seriously? Who’s going to look at it except for my husband and the end of an exhausting day? I’m glad I wore something comfortable
  • Beauty routine – I’ve got pretty good skin as it is, so didn’t see the need to the million facials recommended in wedding magazines. Saved us a bundle, and I didn’t have to stress about it
  • Jewellery – I just wore a $20 necklace from a cheap kids/teens jewellery shop and it looked great
  • Flowers – Luckily, my mum has a huge garden, so we picked all the flowers on the morning of. I know not everyone has this luxury, but it’s great to see everyone else spend $500+ on flowers and we didn’t spend a cent!
  • Cars – We got ready and did ceremony and reception all at the same place, but I still don’t think we would have bothered with cars unless we could borrow them for free. I don’t see the point in hiring really expensive wedding props!
  • Cake – We had lots of cake served at our reception. Mother-In-Law freaked out when she heard we weren’t having a wedding cake, so she organised one herself but we would have been just as happy without
  • DJ/Band – We just set up an iPod and that worked beautifully. People loved the music, or they got up and changed the song – it made things feel more relaxed and like a regular party, which was just what we wanted

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