(Closed) Looking Back, What Could You Have Done Without on Your Wedding Day?

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 242
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I shouldn’t have bothered with the many facials I had in the lead up to the wedding. I have bad skin and thought facials helped but no, in fact my skin worsened because I was under so much stress the two weeks prior, no facial could help me then.

I put way too much effort on the bridesmaids outfits. But the effort was worth it for the flower girls, they were the cutest things! 


Post # 243
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@juicytray:  A friend of mine did the big hershey kisses as wedding favors.. most people left them behind..except for me, I grabbed a few at the end of the night to give to my Fiance since he couldnt make it… it really was too bad.

Post # 244
2144 posts
Buzzing bee

This is a great thread.

I didnt know anything about programs until i came into this thread. Needlesstosay that will not be a part of my wedding.

Menus, eh, I dont see the need. Don’t your guests need to pick beforehand anyway, right?

I know people are saying they need a video person, but I’m not really into that. I hate seeing myself on video and I cringe whenever I do. I don’t think I would ever watch it.

STD. Its interesting that people said they could do without them. I’m wondering if we should do the same. I suppose everyone who is coming to the wedding will know anyway. We are inviting close family adn friends no second cousin of Aunt May’s first removed whoever.

The cake. I never wanted a big cake. The last wedding I went to more than half the cake was left. It was sad because they were begging people to eat some. I think I am going the dessert route with cupcakes, a small cake for us(two tiers) and some gealto(cause it screams us)

I think I may go the fake flower route for the church. Save some cash and since they are on the alter is anyone going to know anyway?

I’m getting some great information from this thread. The OP is BRILLIANT for creating it and may thanks to you!


Post # 245
413 posts
Helper bee

Good to know that so many people did not miss programs or favors!

Post # 246
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

bump bump such a great thread

Post # 247
196 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Honestly – nothing. EVERYTHING we spent money on was well used and enjoyed. We thought long and hard about this before and cut back on a lot of stuff we considered unnecessary so this probably contributed to the feeling that we did not waste money on anything. 

Post # 248
31 posts

Commenting to follow 🙂

Post # 249
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We actually cut back on a lot of the filler type stuff. We did have STD’s because so many of our guests were overseas and we wanted to give them as as much notice as possible. We ended up just using postcards from the village where the ceremony was though, so that saved a lot of money.

We didn’t have programs or menus. Nobody missed them. Nor did we have a videographer, although I’m very glad that we splurged on a reputable photographer. He and his assistant was great on the day, and I’ve been really pleased with the preview photos that I’ve seen so far.

We did consider the DJ’s uplighting package, but he was kind enough to tell us beforehand that the venue (which he’d worked at a number of times) actually had some uplighting fitted already. I was very pleased that he’d saved us some money there, and it cemented our decision to work with him!

We bought and borrowed some lawn games (giant jenga, boules) and spacehoppers which were a massive success with kids and adults alike. We also had some sticker books etc for the kids put on the table as a bribe to keep them quiet during the speeches. They were from the dollar store, so barely cost us anything and the kids were entertained!

We did give welcome bags out as people arrived at the ceremony. In each one was a bottle of water, a paper fan and some bubbles. We had bought the water and fans because there had been a heatwave in the weeks prior to our wedding, and we were getting married outside, but on the day it was much cooler so we probably didn’t really need them.

We also had some coffee put out buffet style after the meal, but most of it didn’t get drunk. I think this might have been a bit of poor planning on our front though, as it wasn’t announced that the coffees had been served.

We also had our chocolate wedding cake as dessert served with cream, which I’m glad we did as there was no wasted cake at the end.

That’s about it really. Everything else I would keep.

Post # 250
38 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

Great post! bumping to save this one. 

I was really considering certain decor additions (dressing up chairs, favors, decorive seating card holders) and this post is gladly making me think twice. I’m also def going to make a must list for the photographer. 

One thing another girl mentioned to me that I really want to do is a private “lat dance” at the end of the night with FH maybe when everyone is gone or cleaning up, out on the veranda or in the cocktail room.


Post # 251
167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Less food! We went a little crazy with how much food we had, but I really didn’t want our guests to be hungry.

Wedding programs! I left them at home and nobody missed them.

But, I really wouldn’t have changed anything. I thought we spent money really well and I am glad we had everything we got!

Post # 252
381 posts
Helper bee

The limo, I would have made other arrangements. It cost close to $1,200 for five hours, most of which we weren’t even with it or in it.

Post # 253
557 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014


Post # 254
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ya know I had to upgrade to chiavari chairs and have uplighting because I knew Id regret it if I didn’t lol and I’m so happy with everything we chose to upgrade. We didnt do favors and I’m still glad we didn’t because I felt it as a waste of time and money lol so basically I knew what is regret later on and made sure it didnt happen lol

Post # 255
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@bluefrog33:  I didn’t do programs or favors and I doubt anyone noticed or cared lol such a waste of effort lol

Post # 256
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m replying to this thread for a second time, as I had written a list before I actually got married. I’m wondering if any of my answers have changed.
Expensive flowers – we found a great deal on our florist and they exceeded my expectations more than I could have imagined. They truly pulled through and all I did was show them my inspiration photos from Pinterest. Communication is also key, and knowing what flowers are in season (don’t bother dreaming of peony bouquets if you have a December wedding unless you’re willing to shell out $$$ for it)

Wedding programs – I contemplated making some the week of, but by the end of it all I was tired of DIY projects and we scrapped it entirely and had no program at all. Luckily, we wouldn’t have even needed them. Though if I had to do one, I would stick to my original answer and just have one program, perhaps like on a large chalkboard or photo frame. – for all the guests to see.

Guestbook – We had my SIL draw the template for a fingerprint guestbook (16×20 inch)and I’m SO glad we didn’t pay more than $4 for it because the guests did NOT listen to our helpers’s instructions at our guestbook sign in table. They put their damn fingerprints EVERYWHERE, all over the page, even drawing in their own balloons (we had wet wipes available for people to clean their fingers). It’s not really frameable, and I can’t believe guests would actually refuse to listen to where we asked them to put their fingerprints (is it really so hard??) I would have been so furious (not only at them, but myself) if I had paid $75 for those Etsy prints. Thank goodness I didn’t.
Videography – didn’t go through with it, don’t regret it. 

Cake – had a friend make a simple two tier cake with frosting (photo inspiration again from Pinterest) and I made a little flag bunting. It was great. The cake cutting lasted no more than 2 minutes, and we had a dessert buffet anyway. Our friends noshed on the cake after the reception. Duncan Hines all the way (probably what those cake companies use anyway….)

Wedding veil – I bought a plain waltz length veil and several yards of beautiful ivory alencon lace trim all on Etsy for a total of about $80. I hand sewed the more difficult areas by the comb, and used my machine for the rest. Totally worth the effort (I’m not sewing expert), completely happy I didn’t waste $200+ on a veil. I only wore it for a total of about 2 hours in the day (ceremony and family portraits).

Makeup/hair artist – I’m on the fence about this one. While we all looked great on the day, I feel like if I had invested more time and effort into practicing my makeup skills, I probably could have done it myself. I wasn’t used to the amount of makeup I had on my face, and I felt like if I had done it myself, I would have looked more like “me”. Nonetheless, it was nice to pamper my girls and myself that day and it was relaxing.

Photographers – I may be premature in saying this as I haven’t yet seen our photos, but based on their previous work and our engagement photos, they were worth every penny. They helped fulfill nearly every wedding photo dream I’ve ever had. They were probably the second most important thing I was willing to splurge on (after the food) and they were great people to work with.

Photobooth – we didn’t book our photographers’ photobooth until about a week before the wedding, but it was truly a hit, both with the older and younger crowd. I’m glad we decided to do it. If you have the budget to squeeze it in, I recommend it. Ours was not the traditional boxy shaped booth, but rather a white backdrop. Less claustrophobic for sure and you could fit more people. Our photographers make their studiobooth photos look amazing.

Transportation – we used our own 2 cars and two of the groomsmen drove to transport the wedding party around for photos and it worked just fine. Limos are expensive and weren’t worth it.

Something that I WOULD recommend that you will probably forget about… remember to eat! My bridesmaid was amazing and bought candies and snacks, and my mom helped order a platter of sandwiches (later wrapped up) and a flat of water bottles to keep us satiated throughout the day. They were a lifesaver because we definitely got hungry during photos.




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