(Closed) Looking Back, What Could You Have Done Without on Your Wedding Day?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 257
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@LittleCricket:  I saw on pinterest where someone put some of the petals from their wedding boquet in a clear glass ornament for the christmas tree.  You could even have something etched into it like your names or wedding date.

Post # 258
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I did my wedding pretty cheap, It came in at  under 8k including honeymoon.  Which included having all 5 of our daughters in the wedding with dresses etc.

I regret nothing.I  still though can’t believe it cost us that much. 

I didn’t have save the dates, programs, chair sashes or covers. I used fake flowers, I went to the dollar store for all of my decorations.

Our venue and reception site was beautiful and I’m glad we actually had a wedding now.  Orginally I wanted to just elope just to save the money.

My now husband wouldn’t elope with me and insisted on a real wedding. So now I figure every anniversary I will use this over his head to make sure we get some quality alone time and go away for a couple of nights.

Post # 259
30 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

I could have gone without a toss bouquet. I wasnt planning on preserving mine, and it just sat at my parents house for a while till the flowers died.

I went without programs, dont think anyone missed them.

I didnt put any fancy baskets in the bathroom

We didnt do wedding favors, but instead wrapped a bunch of small candies with a personalized wrapper in our wedding colors. These were spread out all over the tables. I always thought favors were kind of a waste…

I had very simple centerpieces…some candles, a few roses in a small vase in our wedding color and some rose petals spread across the table.

My mom made a veil which cost about $10 in material…if that. They are pretty easy, no idea how they can get marked up to hunderds of dollars.

We had a smaller 3 tier cake and then had more sheet cake in the back. I was able to get an amazing baker this way because I wasnt paying for a giant masterpiece. I just wanted it to taste good, which it did. I got so many compliments on how amazing the cake was! Your guests will care more about the taste then how impresssive it looks.

Something I would suggest getting, a photobooth. Our doubled as our guest book and everyone loved it! And its so fun to look back at all those pictures and see your grandma acting all crazy in the booth πŸ™‚

My splurges were hair and makeup ($200) and photography ($3500). I dont regret spending more on those things one bit. I mean if im spending that much on photos, I want to look good! πŸ™‚

We were able to have a 200 guest wedding for under 12 grand. Still a lot of money for one day, but I think we did a good job of having the wedding we wanted on the budget we were comfortable with.

Hope some of this is helpful!

Post # 260
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Commenting to follow

Post # 261
3022 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

This is a great thread!!!

I am actually trying to have a wedding for as close to $5,000 as possible. It sounds crazy, but I’m having the wedding in Prague, and the WIC here is less established and insane than in the states.

Right now, the venue, including food, music mixer and decor, comes in at just over 4K. This is assuming 120 guests. (It’s entirely possible than fewer will be able to attend since they will be coming from the US, so perhaps that amount will go down a few hundred. )  But this doesn’t include drinks. πŸ™  My Fiance is English, and he says it’s normal for people to pay for their own drinks at the reception, but I am feeling a bit tense about that. I only want to do beer and wine, but my family and friends are big drinkers, so the tab could end up pretty large.

Also not included so far are: my dress, any live music, flowers, and all the other extras. I don’t plan on favors or bags. My SIL will do the invitations, my BF will do my makeup, a friend (who is a wedding photographer) will do the photography– we just have to pay her flight and accomodation (but she’s coming from Ireland, not the US)– a HUGE savings.

My Fiance thinks I’m inviting too many people, but to me that’s the most important part.

Post # 262
3400 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Best money spent was on our photographer & venue.

If we had more money, I would have focused on low lighting (more candles & such) & a DJ. I honestly couldn’t have cut anything out. We did the bare minimum & our day totaled 6.5k for 100 guests w/ open bar. I lovedddd that we catered our wedding from a local restuarants lunch menu, & don’t at all regret not having a wedding cake (we had sheet cake & literally only 4 pieces were served)

Post # 264
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Tagging to follow. Great thread!

Post # 265
3138 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree… We did not need: 

bathroom baskets

i spy game only 3 people shared thier photos


Post # 266
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

bumping to follow! thank you for the advice bees. I think i’m going to nix welcome baskets now / bathroom baskets πŸ™‚

Post # 267
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

So far the things that  I am skipping on are:

1.Wedding programs

2.Menu cards

3. Expense videographer (having a friend do it for cheap)

4. CHampange toast

5. Photo Booth.

Things I am starting to regret:

1. I wish I would of had a smaller wedding and put my foot down on the guest list.

2. I wish I would have fewer bridesmaids and No flower girl or ring bearer

3. I wish I would have looked for cheap invitations.

Post # 268
455 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I’m commenting to follow as my wedding is a a while off but we’ve already cut a lot from our wedding already. 


Here’s what we’re not doing: engagement party, engagement photos, videographer, second shooter, uplighting, photo booth, champagne toast, chair covers, programs, flowers outside of boutquets, seperate ceremony site, flower gir/ring bearer, favors, second ring for me, sand/candle/wine unity whatever ceremony,live band, personalized reception decor and a bunch of other stuff I’m forgetting. 


Other than making our vows the food is our focus.  We’re spending there.  


Post # 269
70 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014


Hotel venue: ceremony and reception under one roof. They’re providing us with all the catering (cocktail hour, dinner, alcohol, champagne toast, and cake), linens, chair covers, dance floor and complimentary suite. Plus they have an event coordinator who will be running the show the day of. 

Photographers: we negotiated a photo booth into our package which includes both photographers, engagement session, canvas prints and free photo session every year for forever. Wow.

DJ: the guy is essentially in charge of the reception so we wanted to hire a pro to make sure our guests have a great time. He has a flat rate with unlimited hours and happens to also provide uplighting.


Flowers: stayed realistic by remembering it’s just one day and the only people who will remember them will be our moms. kept slashing away at the proposal until we were well under budget. When in doubt, light some votives and sprinkle flower petals around it. Done!

Beauty: will be doing facials/masks/peels at home. One of my BMs is a stylist and graciously offered to do hair for my bridal party. Have a makeup artist for us and negotiated lower rate and waiving of tax

Shopped Around

Dress: Tried on a dress that was over my budget (don’t make that mistake!), then found something similar for half the price. Yay and whew!

Lion Dance: some cultural entertainment for the guests. not many businesses that do this, but we booked a troupe that cost half as much as others and didn’t have any parking demands

Dance class: found a place that has a wedding special – free consult and 2 classes for $65!


Invitations: do I really need letterpress invites on super thick paper that people will throw out? No. Had to tell myself that over and over. Stayed under budget and found a coupon, too.

Cutting Out

Engagement party, bridal shower, bachelor(ette) party, welcome party, farewell brunch: too many parties – let’s focus on the main event!

Big wedding party: no flower girls or ring bearers or jr BMs

Wedding planner: i’m a planner and a researcher at heart so I’m happily handling all of the details. We’re lucky our vendors have all worked with each other before, so they just need a day-of timeline and we’re good.

Rehearsal dinner: lunch will do!

All the fancy accessories: dress has lots of detail, so the ring and simple earrings will do. Will be skipping the veil, garter, and fancy underthings.

Programs and favors: ceremony won’t be too long and we’ll be stuffing ppl with lots of food πŸ™‚

Fancy photo guestbook – I think something from Etsy will do just fine

Welcome bags: it’s a nice gesture but I personally don’t find them necessary. We’ve put up lots of info about the area on our website though, so guests will know about things to do and see. Maybe a welcome letter?

Toiletry baskets: already provided by hotel

Games: will make our own Advice Cards for guests to fill out but no bingo or jenga or anything

Unity candle/sand/box nailing: waaay to accident-prone 

Flip flops: meh

Limo: not needed. We’re getting ready, getting married and partying all under one roof. The hotel is downtown by the waterfront and has really great photo locations within a block or two

Send off: we’re staying til the end!


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