(Closed) Looking Back, What Could You Have Done Without on Your Wedding Day?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 47
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper


Bathroom baskets (I spent soooo much time on this and people barely used anything)

Stressing out about chairs (I ended up keeping my venue chairs and they were FINE).

Stressing out about my dress (total dress regret but I ended up loving it and feeing beautiful on my wedding day.  It was also fun to have people see me for the first time in it – vs. my “I’ve seen this dress a million times and it’s no longer new/special” perspective).

Stressing out about linens/table runners –  didn’t matter in the end

Hotel Blocks – I spent so much time figuring out hotel options and no one even used them!

Kissing Balls – I spent so much time making these and while I liked them (and they helped double as reception decor), I think I would have saved the time and had my florist decorate the aisle.


Totally necessary:

Photobooth w/ props – worth every penny

Musicians (at cocktail hour and ceremony) – worth every penny

Videography – it was SO nice to be able to watch our ceremony – it was a blur and helped solidify the special moments as they unraveled.

A bomb florist – the flowers blew me away and were a huge highlight to the wedding.  The arrangements were stunning (at our head table and at the ceremony) and I loved my bouquet.


Wish I spent more on or did:

A better DJ – we went mid-range with our DJ and while it was ‘fine’ it really sets the tone of the party.  I had a really hard time finding a DJ and ended up settling.  If I were to go back, I’d do this differently

Guest List – I stressed out so much about our guest list and I wish I would have relaxed and added 20-30 more people to it.  I didn’t realize how many people wouldn’t be able to make it that I thought would definitely be there.

Perserve my bouquet – I wanted to do this but was talked out of it by the florist (Because I had a white bouquet they said it would be cost prohibitive to preserve it and I might as well get DH to buy me a new bouquet every year on our anniversary).  I listened to this advice but have regretted it ever since.  


Did not do (and didn’t miss):



Post # 48
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@oracle:  I wish I had preserved my bouquet too, but it didn’t cross my mind.  Tried to dry it once it was pretty much wilted and I’m still trying to figure out what to do with it.

Post # 49
3240 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

For the most part I think we spent money well on our wedding. We had a blue grass band for the ceremony and a DJ for the reception. The only thing I would change in hindsight would have been to have the blue grass band stay for the whole thing and nixed the DJ. The DJ wasn’t bad per say, but there weren’t a lot of dancers in the group. So the bluegrass band would have been nicer given our venue.

Things we didn’t have and didn’t miss: ceremony programs, favors, limo, videographer, hotel blocks and upgraded chairs.

I wish I had been able to swing a photobooth though…..

Post # 50
2193 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There’s a lot of Bees following so I will give this answer.  I loved my wedding and would not of cut anything!  That being said there were a lot of “personalized” touches that enhanced the day but really would not hurt us if they were cut.

  • welcome bags
  • ceremony programs
  • ribbon wands for after the ceremony
  • get-a-way rickshaw for the ceremony(we had a trolley too)
  • signs for the trolley & rickshaw
  • extra flowers on columns at ceremony(our wedding was outdoors in a garden)
  • outdoor garden ceremony space(indoor ceremony space was included in the price of our venue)
  • light up ice cubes
  • paper striped straws
  • framed photos
  • custom postcard guest book w/mailbox
  • light up star wands for the kids
  • menu cards
  • Comiskey Park card box
  • hot dog stand midnight snack
  • white dance floor
  • uplighting

All of the above added to the day and made it really, really special(and expensive!) but cutting a few wouldn’t of hurt!  The do not cuts that make the day are great food, open bar, amazing dj/photographer and a videographer AND the perfect groom!

Post # 51
5 posts
  • Wedding: March 2005

OMG what a fabulous idea for a thread!

I want to give this some serious thought. Commenting to follow…

Post # 52
806 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Getting married next weekend (eep) so I will come back and update…but here are the things I cut out already:

– Programs

– Favors

– Fancy flowers.  We did a grocery store order for the bouquets and certerpiece flowers and it will be less than $300. 

– Uplighting.  The venue is beautiful and unique, so I don’t think anyone will notice!


Post # 54
3457 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s really hard to look back and think of anything major I would cut that would really impact the budget.  More, I question if some things were worth the time investments:

  • Pocketfold invitations (apparently most people thought they were bought anyhow.  note to folks, put a “handmade” sign on the back of them!)
  • Handmade embossed programs
  • “Up” themed mailbox for cards

Regarding cost investment:

  • I wish we had just paid X towards wedding outfits rather than given gifts.  We had people owe us $675 afterwards that they never paid us back because DH didn’t want to go remind them they hadn’t paid us.  As a result our gifts to people took up a huge portion of our wedding budget in comparison to the recommended amount.
  • I would have shuffled around the pie selections a little.  We didn’t really need nearly as much as ordered, but DH wanted them.  This is really minor though.
  • I shouldn’t have bought as much BBQ food!  Also should have gone simpler for ease of preparation.

I wish I spent more on:

  • Pictures.  Couldn’t stomach spending that much at the time but now I regret it a bit
  • Flowers (would have paid the extra $50 for the nice containers on the altar, wish I had communicated my bridal bouquet preference better, but would not have changed having potted plants rather than flowers on the tables)

But I’m happy I did:

  • BBQ day before with everyone invited
  • Venue, including extra apps and the cheese table (devoured)
  • Open bar
  • Student musicians (wish they had practiced a little more though)
  • DJ (great price)
  • Photo guest book + picture frame mat
  • My dress, hair, makeup


Post # 55
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@moniquaa:  I agree. Though I didn’t have the money for a florist, I knew I wanted real flowers AND I didn’t want to DIY them. I found wedding flower collections online at Sams Club (similar to Costco but we don’t have that store in our area) and purchased all my flower needs (flowers for entire Bridal Party, baby’s breath for centerpieces and rose petals) for just under $500.


Post # 56
503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

This is really helpful – I’m really interested in this bit about programs – are they really not necessary?  How freeing!

Post # 58
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

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@TaurianDoll:  at the end of the day, no one will ‘miss’ the photobooth.  It was one of the first things I booked… and, had I waited til later on in my planning, I would have nixed it because of cost.  But, it was something people REALLY enjoyed from an entertainment perspective.

Also – for video – if you could have someone record it even on their smart phone or camera – it would be sweet to watch.  I would enlist a few people to record it so you can check out different footage (and to have a backup in case someone’s sound is off).  Another idea is to set up a still camera on a tripod and just have it record.  Maybe just have someone man the camera to make sure it’s pointing toward you.  That would be a way to save money, but still have the footage.  I honestly don’t watch my wedding video often, but really enjoyed watching it initially.

Post # 59
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

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@mjoyelle:  I personally really enjoy programs.  It helps guests figure out who people are and you can communicate so much in them (a little history about your relationship, your future address, where you are honeymoooning, etc… )  They do not have to be difficult, time consuming, or labor intensive.  I did a tri-fold on a standard size piece of paper.  I bought shimmery, pretty paper… designed it in Word, printed it myself.  One of the easiest parts of wedding planning, IMO.

Post # 60
1889 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think there’s anything I had at my wedding that I feel like wouldn’t have been missed, except maybe the unity candle … But I am definitely glad we didn’t spend $$ on programs, an expensive guestbook, live band (DJ was great and waaay cheaper), garter toss, or special monogrammed favors (we just made little bags of various candy we like and put one at each place setting, and we were happy to take the leftovers!).

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